I have been dating my girlfriend for over 2 years. I have asked her to try anal sex many many times. She has always said no but a few weeks ago she said yes. So we got all ready and just as I was about to insert myself she said no. Then a few days later she said yes again and as soon as I got the tip in she said stop it hurts. Now just so you know she likes getting fingered anally so I don't know what the problem is. Please help I really want to try this.
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Adrian / 29 / Man / Likes Women / Single
ok, i'll say something that goes against EVERYTHING porn has EVER said! anal sex is PAINFUL for the reciever. the girls you see in porn learn to TOLERATE it. there are NO pleasure receptors in the anus on women (on men there is the prostate that recieves stimulation). so it is NOT strange for ur wife to not like ur dick up her ass.
eJefe / Man / Likes Women / Single
I'm with Nick on this one. I have to add there are really 3 schools of thought on anal...those who love it, those who tolerate it, and those who say no fuckin' way. The anus is full of nerve endings, but what kind of stimulation they send to the brain depends on a lot of variables, like experience, level of relaxation, how fast something is penetrating and how big it is, and maybe that persons feeling about the other, and sex in general.
I've only been with two types of women since my divorce, those who tolerated it and those who lived for it and loved it! Obviously, those who wanted it were experienced and knew how to make it a successful and pleasurable time, however I have penitrated anal virgins and got them to love it too. You need to go slow, use plenty of lube, and back off and try another time if things aren't working out.
Like Nick, I've had women beg and demand to get their asses fucked, or even grab me and back their ass up over my dick without a word, and have a rockin' orgasm from it...doesn't sound like someone who just 'tolerates' it to me. And it works for guys, too. 'Mind blowing" doesn't begin to discribe the orgasms I've had from a woman stimulating my ass
Good luck, and remember lube, got slow, and communicate.
Adrian ( Resident A-hole) · see, now THIS is a decent post that gives examples from experience. NOT like nickthedick's post, which said i didn't know what i was talking about, but nothing backing up his stupid claim!
eJefe · Thanks! Sexual tastes are dicey at best, and some people aren't into even plain vanilla, while others have no bounds to their perversion...I guess I'm just lucky? -J-
Adrian ( Resident A-hole) · true. i've experienced all three types, and upon talking to all three at different times, i have learned that 2 types are just the same, but with huge spacing between gratification. and tbh i have NOT seen ANY data, scientific, medical, otherwise, that supports ANYTHING substantially supporting ANY pleasure receptors in or around the woman's anus.
eJefe · Pleasure a woman gets from anal may be more mental than physical...maybe the sheer naughtiness factor of it all...the thought of doing something 'bad' and 'wrong'.
Adrian ( Resident A-hole) · that's EXACTLY what i've seen in all the documentation i've seen! it's all mental! all of the pleasure! which means that every girl that begs you for anal, you should thank! =P
LostLover69 · I have also heard that when receiving anal sometimes certain nerves in the vagina can be stimulated in which the girl can receive pleasure. So maybe that is what is happening
Girlsontheirknees / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Just an add on as i feel the topic has been covered... I wanted to become a boss at anal and my bf was more then happy to nail me in the ass although he fucked it by being too rough the first few times now i reckon my asshole is torn haha so dudes by all means follow your girls lead and be slow at first!!
Adrian ( Resident A-hole) · you started doggy, didn't you? THAT is the most WRONG way to start and usually ends uup injuring the reciever!
cleverKAL · You could try standing up and leaning against a wall, I hear this helps but don't quote me on that, I've only done anal a few time, I can take it or leave it
Nickthedick / 23 / Man / Likes Women / In a relationship
Ha really these guys don't know shit! They probably haven't had anal sex before so don't listen to them. And there is no such thing as pleasure receptors so adrian is full of shit. First off don't be that boyfriend that's always asking for anal and trying to stick your finger in her ass, for a girl to actually enjoy anal she has to be completely relaxed...not pressured. Ok soooo...Lubrication, anticipation and protection are all essential precursors to anal sex. Make sure her ass is lubed up and so is your dick. if you think its enough put a little more on. my girlfriend loves anal she actually asks for it. she says it feels good and its really hot that anal is so taboo. It can be messy and embarrassing so just make sure she is comfortable and warmed up....and for god sakes go slow.
Adrian ( Resident A-hole) · ok, nickledick, stfu. seriously. YOU are the typical 'stupid guy'. guess what dumbasss- YOUR GIRL IS LYING TO YOU. i'm not saying she doesn't like it, because she might like the EMOTIONAL satisfaction she recieves from anal. and dumbass, how the fuck can you say there's no such thing as pleasure receptors when there's this thing called the 'prostate' RIGHT FUCKING NEXT TO the anus!?!? dumbass, pay a-fuckin-ttention in a high school biology class! before you call someone wrong, make fucking sure your shit is correct.
Nickthedick · its not a plesure receptor
Nickthedick · there is technically no such thing as a pleasure receptor.
Adrian ( Resident A-hole) · douche, receptor=center=nerve cluster. DUH!
cleverKAL / 20 / Man / Likes Women / Single
Agreed with Adrian, thats also why a lot of these pornstar chicks admit to having problems as they get older, the asshole is simply not meant for that kind of fun. You say she likes getting fingered anally, well think about it, the thickness of your finger is not nearly as thick as the shaft of your dick, not even your dickhead, so of course if it's just a finger she's not gonna mind much. I say stick with the fingers, but then again, I don't really care for anal, so my opinion is a little biased. If she wants to learn to be able to tolerate it and like it, then have at it.
Doesn / Bisexual / Likes Bisexuals / Single
Okay, for the first three or so inches you've only reached the rectum, and from personal experiance, those three inches feel great, because your relaxing anal muscles which encourage orgasms, now after those three or so inches you reach what I can imagine is the large intestine; here there are parts that hurt every few milimetres , every time your push through and retract these parts hurt.
As far as I know, there's no way to make these not hurt, but that's just me , it's something I've tried a few times, but I wouldn't again.
Really, you probably have to stick with foreplay when it comes to that area if you want your girl to enjoy the rest of the experiance.
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