My first sexual experience was at 18 (sort of a late bloomer). I'm 23 now and I've never masturbated before... up until this point. I never thought I needed to and I just felt like an idiot touching myself under the covers. But, my boyfriend recommended it I gave it a shot. So, I did and after about 30 minutes of rubbing my clit, I had no orgasm. It's really frustrating! So many of my girlfriends brag about these explosive orgasms they have when they're masturbating but I've never felt anything like that before. Maybe it's just not the way my body's set up to work. I don't know. Am I weird for not having orgasms?
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Sexnthecity2000 / Woman / Likes Men / Single
NO, youare NOT weird! This is completely normal. I can speak from experience—I too, masturbated for years and never had a real orgasm—how frustrating!…until I used a vibrator. And one I got one—WOW! I suggest getting a vibrator, and something that turns you on, whether that is a sexy video, book, pictures, or memories of a bedroom session with your boyfriend. Once you are in the mood, start to lightly touch your clit. If you are dry, add some lubricant. Then, use the vibrator on your clit at its lowest setting. As you get used to this, start to turn the vibrator up a notch. I guarantee that with these intense and evenly-pressured vibrations, you will start to get more excited and will be able to orgasm. Once you have orgasmed from a vibrator, you will be able to start switching between the vibrator and your fingers, or being able to know what makes you most excited. This whole process might take a few months or a few years, and that is okay. We are constantly discovering things about our bodies, and having an orgasm is part of that discovery. Good luck!
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