Does excess masturbating mean you're not good in bed?

The guy I am dating masturbates on a constant basis. There is always porn up on his computer and lotion in every room of his apartment. Usually it doesn't bother me, but I feel like maybe I am not satisfying him. What should I do to ask about it?

Ask him if his left hand is getting tired. If it is, then offer him a spare! It sounds like your boyfriend isn't incorporating you into any of his self-service and that could be for many reasons, not just because he's dissatisfied by you sexually. What the both of you need to do is find a way to make his masturbation work for the both of you. Suggest mutual masturbation to your boyfriend and see what he thinks. The both of you can watch each other masturbate until orgasm (or however long or short you want it to last). Or, even better, you can lend each other a hand. If he enjoys watching porn, then share the experience with him. See if you can find movies that the two of you are aroused by and masturbate together. At the same time, he needs to clue you in on what his desires are. Does he normally jerk off to one fantasy? Is there something particularly kinky that he enjoys? He may feel as though his desires can't include you, so talk it out and see how he feels. Masturbation can become apart of your routine sex life, especially if he enjoys it, but it won't go anywhere if you're left out in the cold. Also, although it's his apartment, it is your relationship and the both of you need to work together to overcome this little hurdle. He needs to have only one bottle of lotion and porn in one room of the apartment. That way he doesn't feel the need to masturbate when he enters whichever room is stocked with his "tools." If nothing changes, then he's holding something back and until he's ready to share that part of himself with you, then your sex life may not go anywhere.

Answered by xtinacicchelli about 1 year ago.
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