Help. I really regret doing this =(

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So I've been dating this guy for 3 years, and we haven't had sex, but still do oral. So whenever he did oral, omg i would be turned on in seconds and I always got the pleasure out of it. I actually was wondering how he was so good!

Then, I moved to Europe for about 6 months. Since I didn't see my bf, I started masturbating about once a day (mainly cuz i was bored). And at first, it was hard for me to turn myself on, but then i started fantasizing thing, and it became easier. I would even watch porn just to get me turned on. Also, I never really went in, I just would mess with my clit.

Well, I came back to the US and whoa was I excited to get it on with my boyfriend. But to my surprise.... he wasn't turning me on anymore. I mean, its not that he wasnt turning me on, but i was used to picturing it in my mind and doing it myself, so when he was doing it, he just couldnt set me off.

Im really worried, and i honestly wish I haden'ta masturbated because now my mind is set to closing my eyes and fantasizing it. But i dont know why, I just cant stop and fantazise when im wth him.

I really want things to go back to how they used to be =/ i'm not even sure how to get it that way. I was thinking to just completely stop masturbating and maybe my mind will go back to normal? please help, this is reallyyy bothering me =(


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Mal
Mal / Woman / Likes Men / Single

REALLY ? .... 3 years ... no sex ... only oral ?!?

Well, the first step would be... oh gee ... I don't know ... have sex ?!?

over 2 years ago
Arsenal2007
Arsenal2007 / Woman / Likes Men / Single

I'd like to add some pearls of wisdom here but I agree with the above comment.... Have sex, lots of it..... Practice makes perfect.... And intergrate masterbation into whatever sexual practices you get into....

over 2 years ago
Jenny
Jenny / Woman / Likes Men / Single

Communicate to your boyfriend what it is that you do to yourself and/or fantasize to get you off. I'm sure he will be more than willing to satisfy you in that manner and get turned on himself in return. Don't be so hard on yourself either, after three years it is perfectly normal to have had a change in your sexual needs/desires. Be his teacher and I promise he will gladly learn and perform!

over 2 years ago

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