How do I give a good blowjob?

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I have recently been becoming sexually active with a guy in school and I am totally clueless when it comes to giving and receiving oral sex.

Can you tell me how it is that I should give someone a good blowjob? Are their certain techniques I should know about?

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Zennsketch
Zennsketch / Woman / Likes Men / Single

First thing's first. Giving good head is not just 'a sexual act'. It's a performance. Reality = interest. Therefore, if you don't LIKE doing it, it's not going to be as enjoyable for him. When you give good head, your pussy should enjoy it. It should feel good to you. It should make you wet. If it doesn't, then he's probably not enjoying it nearly as much as he could be.

Your average male doesn't get a blowjob every day of the week. Shit, most of them are lucky if they even GET them at all. Some women have this stigma about not wanting to do it. Those women need to be slapped in their prudely, selfish, ignorant teeth. If you expect a man to eat your gash, which by the way, is no where near as easy, than you best learn how to fucking suck a cock decently, bitch.

Giving a good blowjob is relatively simple. First rule of thumb. DO NOT do what the porn chicks do. 90% of the time they either don't know what the fuck they're doing, or they're doing it alot rougher than your average joe schmoe is going to be able to handle. Porn dicks are less sensitive, hence the roughness, and sometimes even biting.

Keys to a good blowjob, in no particular order:

1. The sloppier the better. If you're worried about ruining your makeup or getting messy, you shouldn't be allowed to suck dick. Wet = good. Sloppy sounds = good. If you want to put on a lobster bib and put your pinky in the air, you don't deserve to suck cock, god damn it.

2. Unless you have dentures, you're going to have to give head with teeth in the way. Don't do that stupid 'tuck my lips over my teeth' method, either. They want to feel your lips, not a bone wrapped in latex. Scraping, biting, chewing, all of that, is out. Unless the guy requests it, don't fucking do it. It's not a stick of Trident, so NO fucking teeth!

3. Hands hands hands. A good blow job is not just about inserting penis into mouth and moving back and forth. Rotate with your hand(s) , depending on his length, and stroke it, pet it, tease it. Caress/fondle his balls, inner thighs, lower stomache, ass cheeks, whatever.

4. The tongue is one of the body's strongest muscles. For fuck sake, use it. Lapping, flicking, swirling, all of it. Uncircumsized cocks are usually more sensitive on the head than cut dick, so take note not to go overboard on the tongue attention when he's sheathed. On the underside of a penis is a small bit of skin called the "frenulum". This is like a gold mine of nerve endings for most men. Gentle flicking and licking at this area with the tip of your tongue, can make a cock quiver.

5. Foreplay. Anticipation is something that can add to the intensity of a blow job. Make him want you, make him think about it, make him ache for it. This is a classic thing women have been doing for fuck knows how long. A woman eats a banana, in front of a man. A woman licks a lollipop or a popsicle in similar fashion. Men watch this, girls. Even if all you're doing is honestly just eating something that happens to be with your tongue or phallus shaped. They watch, they stare, they fantasize. If you tease them long before the jeans come off, he's more apt to reciprocate with honest arousal, and that, ladies, will help get you turned on. All of which, interestingly enough, will make you suck his cock like nobody's business. I can't fucking stress this enough. Self arousal DIRECTLY effects the quality of the blowjob.

6. Noise. Slurp it, moan while you do it, giggle, purr, growl, whatever you do. Don't just be a flesh covered suction cup. Make some noise. He will most likely like it. Even a pumpkin makes noise when he fucks it

7. Eye contact. If you suck his dick with your eyes slammed shut and your face blindly staring at his pelvis, you might as well be a pocket pussy. Looking up at him with different expressions (naughty, shy, mischievous, evil, etc) while you're doing the deed, it brings it up to a whole other intimant level. Not all guys like it, but eh, unless you do it, how the fuck you going to know if -your- guy does or not?

8. Finally, and something that I personally recommend learning, and doing. Deepthroat. That's right. Deepthroat. If you're with a man who even has enough length to qualify for this technique, trust me, he'll like it. The main 'problem' with deepthroating is the gag reflex. This can be trained, believe it or not, by simply practicing daily with things such as popsicles and bananas, as they won't cause soreness to the throat. Some men like to make a girl gag on his cock, some don't. If you can control your gag reflex, at least somewhat, you can do this quite easily.

Combining change of pressure, rhythms, angles and strokes with all the tips above, should prove to make you Nina Hartley 2.0 in no time.

(No two guys are the same in what they like the best. It isn't something that you can just know what he likes automatically. Drop to your knees and murmer that you want to make him feel good. Ask him as you lick different ways, areas, touch different ways, etc. Ask him how it feels every now and then. Guys are pretty honest when they get head, at least up until they come.)

Last but not least, the discussion of what to do if he's on the blowjob ride to the finish. When you give a man head and take him to the brink, there is a plethora of cumshot choices.

Face: this is the porn star fantasy for most men. If you've ever caught cum in the eye, you understand just why it's a rarity. It is generally wanted by men.

In the mouth: this is also a highly sought after finisher. But then you have the whole "spit vs. swallow" routine, and honestly girls, unless he's into snowballing, you better want to swallow that jism if you choose this option. Spitting it out is not sexy, period.

On the tits: this is a relatively popular choice of men, though I suppose it all depends on how much he likes your tits. Good and harmless choice, girls.

One last point I want to stress. After your guy cums, unless you know he isn't sensitive, and enjoys after orgasm fondling, leave his cock the FUCK alone. After climax, many men are extremely, and I repeat, extremely, sensitive there. It's not something you play with after he finishes. Just let it rest, unless he requests it, capisce?

almost 5 years ago · 2 Likes
Bay
Bay / Man / Likes Women / Married

if u read this tell

about 2 years ago
Barry
Barry / Man / Likes Bisexuals / Single

Giving a great blowjob is part passion and part technique. Practice both and have fun with it.

almost 2 years ago
Girlsontheirknees
Girlsontheirknees / Woman / Likes Men / Single

zennsketch what the fuck haha this is perfection in words!

about 2 years ago
Robinhood
Robinhood / Bisexual / Likes Men / Single

well damn, zennsketch. regular Wife of Bath aren't we? Im extremely new at this, thanks for your... insight ;)

about 2 years ago
2l-zy2wrt
2l / Woman / Likes Men / Single

Just an add on, there's a strip of flesh called the perineum that runs from the anus to the balls that's really sensitive. Guys love it when you lick, suck, or gently mouth it. Also a quick diversion from a blow job to a rim job and back is also a great way to go. There's tons of sensitive nerve endings around the anus.

about 2 years ago
Bay
Bay / Man / Likes Women / Married

hi baybee

about 2 years ago
Bay
Bay / Man / Likes Women / Married

if u read this tell

about 2 years ago
Bay
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if u read this tell

about 2 years ago
Redbag1
Redbag1 / Woman / Likes Men / Single

I need help. I can't get my fella to cum from my bj. My ex's have always cum and never complained and my fella has been able to cum from bj's with ex's but I just can't do it for him.
I LOVE giving him bj's and I use all my techniques but after 18 months he's never finished. I don't know where I'm going wrong. Now it's becoming a bit of a problem cos I feel like a failure. I really want to please him but it's just not happening.
I have asked him where I'm going wrong and he says he doesn't know but he thinks I like it so much it's become a pleaser for me rather than him. I don't understand this as I thought getting turned on whilst sucking him off would turn him on too.
Someone please help. Thus is turning into a relationship deal breaker for me.

almost 2 years ago
Bay
Bay / Man / Likes Women / Married

if u read this tell

about 2 years ago
El_maèstro
El_ma / Woman / Likes Men / Single

wait...ur a woman? damn that is some serious insight

over 4 years ago
Shelly
Shelly / Woman / Likes Men / Single

hi , dnt read any think of websites like this. all guys r different. you jus need to find out what he likes ya self. jus experiment and yr get better as tym goes on. gud luck oh n dnt b nervous jus get stuck in lolz xx

over 4 years ago
Xnh
Xnh / Woman / Likes Men / Single

SAVE YOUR SELF FROM READING , HERES A VIDEO.

My girl and I have been together for a while and for the longest time her oral
game just didn't cut it. I found this video and showed it to her, since then
she's improved like crazy. I reccomend it to anyone who wants to improve their BLOWJOBS a bit. Check it out.
xsandhoes.com/the-perfect-blow-job/

almost 5 years ago
Dan
Dan / Woman / Likes Men / Single

Damn Zennsketch, you're a woman? I'm impressed.

almost 5 years ago
Thor!
Thor / 49 / Man / Likes Women / Single

@zennsketch, you're the man (or woman?). That's like the best advice for a girl I have ever seen. Man, we're bumping your status up so you can give full answers!

almost 5 years ago
Zennsketch
Zennsketch / Woman / Likes Men / Single

Seriously, I just read the comments below and I don't think there's anything left for me to say. That chick ZENNSKETCH just wrote a book for you: she doesn't exactly use tact, but she gives some excellent advice.

The only thing I'll add is that you can't just start sucking like crazy. Start off slow and easy. It's a gradual process. If you get a dude to cum in two minutes, it's not a good blowjob. You want him to sit back, relax and enjoy it.

almost 5 years ago
Girlygirlsexexpert.
Girlygirlsexexpert / Woman / Likes Men / Single

All you do is use your tonuge piercing or none. the tip of the tonuge.(: spit. lick. fuck(; woahhh.

almost 2 years ago
Andy
Andy / Woman / Likes Men / Single

Hi,
I am a guy, so let me tell you how I prefer to receive it. Perhaps will give you good perspective.

I like it when my woman gently strokes my member to an erection. then she gently licks up and down the shaft, tickling the head with her tongue. This truly drives me crazy.
And then she takes it in her mouth and gently starts sucking on it (it needs to be an enjoyable move - not the violent types that they show in porn videos - that doesn't work for me - or her)
Once in a while she gives her mouth a break and pumps me with her hand and then back to the sucking.
She also likes to lick the bottom of the scrotum and that is one thing that gives great pleasure!

Try it and see if your guy loves it too!

Good luck.

almost 5 years ago
B Easy!

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