I don't know exactly how to begin with my issue. My wife and I have been married for two years and have had a great sex life together. One thing I miss out on is during oral sex. My wife will not allow me to get off in her mouth. Okay... I accept that and enjoy what I CAN get and make no complaints. I have asked for this a few times before but have always got the same answer. She says she does not know why she cant do it, that its not a taste thing or anything like it. Okay, the story is as such: My wife and I have a thing for threesomes and have only been with someone we trusted and knew very well. We had went quite some time without doing anything along these lines. I would say 4 to 5 months only being intimate with each other. We decide one night that we wanna spice it up a bit and bring our friend over to join in. As I watched her giving him oral, for a decent amount of time, he said he was about to cum. Shockingly she remained on him while he got off. She showed no signs of disgust or discomfort and even swallowed a decent bit of it. She says she felt bad after doing it because she wont do it for me. She has never let anyone cum in her mouth, including me. I don't know how to respond to this. She still wont do it with me. I feel hurt and very confused about this. Not that she was not allowed to do what she did, it broke no boundaries, but that she wont do this for me. I love my wife and have always done and wanted to do everything she has ever desired. I feel less of a bond sense this has happened for some reason. Any ideas?...
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Jenny / Woman / Likes Men / Single
The fact that your wife felt guilty after allowing your other partner to cum in her mouth shows she does have a conscious and didn't do it on purpose. Did your threesome partner know about her dislike of someone cumming in her mouth? She most likely felt pressured to do it for this man where as with you, her husband, she feels comfortable enough to share with you her dislikes and know that you would respect them and not judge her. I am sorry that you are hurt and can understand why it would offend you, but you must voice this to your wife. Maybe the both of you should discuss setting "rules" together for your threesome encounters so that neither of you are offended nor caught off guard next time. Rekindle your own bond both emotionally and physically by communicating your desires in the bedroom with each other and with others. Best wishes! :)
N / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Perhaps it's a respect thing. Maybe she feels like it's a disrespectfull thing to do to herself (subconciously obviously, because it's too irrational to be valid conciously) and because she has more respect for you, and you're opinion of her is important TOO her, then she just can't bring herself to do it. This would explain her not being aware of any reason as it's not something she's conciously aware of... and it'd also explain why she'd do it for someone she doesn't care as much for, because his opinion of her isn't as important as yours is. She just doesn't want you looking down on her as skanky and maybe FEEEELS like if she acts that way towards you, you might be more inclined to. Sometimes what we FEEL and what we KNOW are completely different things.
Hope that helps :)
Curious / Woman / Likes Men / Single
I will reiterate this notion:
Just because she's your SO, doesn't mean she has to do everything you want. There is no obligation. She will do what she's comfortable doing, and you'll do what you're comfortable doing.
With that said, she just doesn't like letting guys cum in her mouth. It sounds like the guy seemed determined to do it, without realizing that she didn't like it. So she may have followed through out of a fear of his expectation that should would, and didn't want to create some sort of awkward disruption. In short, just because she did it, didn't mean she liked it.
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