This is my first time eating out pussy. I've had sex with many other girls before but they've never asked for it so I never had a reason to give. But, my new girlfriend is really into oral. She wants me to give it to her. I've done it a few times but she didn't seem too into it. I really like her, so I don't want to let her down while I'm going down on her. We have a great sex life but this one thing is holding me back, for sure. What kind of techniques can I learn while I'm giving my girlfriend head?
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Dan / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Too many dudes are unwilling to simply ask the girl what she wants during cunnilingus. If you don't know, why don't you ask her what she wants you to do? Wouldn't that be the best way to find out what she likes?
At the same time, I understand if you're not willing to take this route. You want the girl to think that you know what you're doing, and that you don't need her help.
First off, don't just dive into it and start going crazy. You need to ease into it...tease her a little bit. Kiss her, kiss her body - work down to her thighs, then start kissing around her vagina, but not on it. Make her wet, make her yearn for you. This sets the tone.
Clitoral stimulation is essential. The clitoris is located in different places on each woman. Sometimes it can be buried, sometimes it's more out in the open. If it's dark in the room, and I can't "spread it out in the open," I put a finger in her, and slowly slide it upwards until I feel a bump. But be careful - the clitoris is very sensitive - proceed with caution. If you lick it too hard, you're going to hurt her. If you want her to enjoy it, you want her to feel comfortable throughout the whole experience. Getting good head is like sitting in the passenger's seat of a car during a road trip: If the person is a good driver, you're not going to be paranoid, feeling the need to look in your mirrors and watch out for inappropriate lane changes, you know? You're going to sit back, relax, and enjoy the drive. And that's what you want her to do: enjoy the drive.
So again, make sure you don't hurt her. While you're licking her clit, try to avoid contact with the tip of your tongue: It often stiffens up and puts too much pressure on the clit. Instead, use the middle of your tongue...it's much softer. You should also use your fingers simultaneously as you're licking her clit: This will provide even more stimulation. The amount of fingers you use depends on the girl, but typically it's no more than two. Use your fingers in a motion like you would be signaling someone to "come here," know what I mean? But try to get into a rhythm. Don't just start licking and fingering like a mad man. Make sure there's a pattern, then work off that pattern with slight variations.
There are ways for you to find out if she likes it or not. For example, after a little while, grab her chest a little bit. Wrap your hands around her neck - almost like a choke - but not as hard. See if she grabs your hand. Slide your fingers by her mouth - she if she starts to suck on them. Throughout the process, try to make eye contact with her...see how she reacts.
These are just some examples. But as I state in the first paragraph, think about asking her - she might appreciate it.
Zack / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Dan is right, his techniques are good however I though I had it mastered but have recently learned that all girls do not like the same techniques. I had a girl I could get off many times quickly, then the next just did not. You must talk about what feels good to her. If she is too shy for talk, just hold her hand while you are working, tell her to squeeze harder the better it feels, you will learn what she likes then make you own routine of what pleases her. You need to mix it up a little, repetitive is good if she is orgasming or close too, but much like a BJ the same thing constantly and the sensation will not be as intense.
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