So I'm straight and I have a girlfriend. I would say that I'm bi-curious, but it's more complex than "do I like men or not." Well, not really. It's simple. I like dick, but I would never be with a man, kiss a man or fuck a man. SOOOO, this is somewhat of an urgent question...
I've got a friend over right now. I'd say we're good friends, but we haven't hung out all that much in the past year. He seems to be very comfortable about his sexuality and jokes around often about anything and everything. I always go to him for advice and he understands every situation and does not make judgments. So, I was thinking... Night is the time to experiment, right? And what better time than a sleepover? He's sleeping on the couch right now, and I'm in my room. I had an idea that I could go up to him, wake him up and ask "Have you ever thought about sucking dick...?" I'm afraid of what he might say, think or do... He has good morals so I don't know if he'd consider it cheating on my girlfriend if I sucked his dick or if he'd even let me. But I just want to point out, a loooooot of people have assumed that he is gay, but he denies it. However, I can easily see it in him.
So, should I put it all out there and ask about sucking dick right now? Should I come up with a better plan? The thought of it really turned me on, and I'm seriously considering waking him up and seeing what happens... Thoughts, suggestions, advice please?
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Andy / 27 / Man / Likes Women / Just looking
OK, I would not do anything unless you ask your girlfriend about this first as she will likely consider it cheating, especially if you don't ask her about it before hand. So sorry to tell you, but you have to resist the urge until you can talk to your GF about it tomorow or a few days or whenever is convenient between you two. THEN ask your friend. Note that if you do suck his dick, even if your GF gives you the nod to do it, it could change your relationship with your friend in many awkward and unforeseeable ways and you have to be prepared to lose him as a friend if the dick-sucking thing doesn't work out. Same situation applies if you had a friend who was a girl and you had a relationship or you hooked up and then broke up and it could be seriously awkward and you lost her as a friend. PROCEED WITH CAUTION!
John / 20 / Man / Likes Men / Single
Well, I don't think she would support it honestly. She is bisexual, and I've had trouble accepting that. But she told me early on that she was. If she found out that I even liked penis, she would feel super insecure and who knows what else. I figured that what she doesn't know won't hurt her. It's not like I plan on going to bath houses and sucking dicks left and right. I figured if I were to try it out, my friend would be a good person to try it on. We're not best friends or anything, but anything I've ever told him to keep secret, he has. Everything with him is confidential. Who is he gonna go tell about this? I don't hang out with any of his friends, and he doesn't hang out with any of mine. I understand things may change between us... Maybe it will freak him out and he'll never want to hang out again. It might shock him... Just my appearance alone, you would never guess that I'd like dick. I've got a full beard, I'm a serious person, blah blah... Nobody would guess that I'm anywhere near gay, or who knows I guess. :P
BUT.... you only live once, right...? Hmmmmmmm..........
Andy / 27 / Man / Likes Women / Just looking
Up to you what to do, but personally I think your cheating on your GF if you do suck his dick. But that is just my personal opinion.
John / 20 / Man / Likes Men / Single
I kind of agree... But I just don't know. I want to experience this at one point. But I love my girlfriend. I see myself being with her for the rest of my life. I just want to try this once.
I think I might go do it... How's this sound? I'll wake him up and say "Hey dude, sorry to wake you. I had a very personal question I had to ask... Can you keep it a secret no matter what? It may sound weird but... I've thought about sucking dick and I was thinking maybe you could let me try it. No pressure, I've just been thinking about it and decided maybe I should try it. If not, we'll forget I ever asked."
Andy / 27 / Man / Likes Women / Just looking
If you really feel like it then I can't stop you. However if you kind of agree with my idea that its cheating maybe you'll be guilty after and she'll sense that and somehow it will come out? Or the secret of it will drive a wedge in your relationship?
GG / 32 / Woman / Likes Women / Married
I think personally youre hedging your bets. You say shes bi and you have trouble with accepting it, yet you see nothing wrong with not telling her your feelings. You wont tell your gf in case she rejects you and if ask your friend and he rejects you, youre left all alone.
You need to come clean about your feelings to you gf. If you like dick as much as you say you do then can you really see yourself spending the rest of your life with your gf living a partial lie? Doesnt make for a brilliant relationship if you ask me.
Andy ( Giggity Giggity Goo) · That was the point I was trying to make to him.
GG · I gathered but i just said it plainly. Some people dont get in direct comments Andy :-)
Andy ( Giggity Giggity Goo) · IC. Its good I have you as backup. ;-)
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