Ive been with my boyfriend for 2 years, and we have been sleeping together for a year and a half or so. Hes the only guy i have ever been with and i love him to no end, but I still dont think ive had an orgasm. Hes about 7 inches, always tries to make me feel good first, and listens to any advice i give him about how sex would be better for me. But even with all of that, I still dont think I have had an orgasm. He has even used a vibrator on me and it felt really good, i just didnt cum. I have even tried to use a vibrator on myself just to see what happened, and it felt good too, but i didnt cum. I get these little tiny spasms in my tummy that make me tence up for half a second, but nothing comes of it. Eventually it feels like my clit gets too sensitive and I just get worn out and we stop. Am i just physically unable to orgasm?
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Harsh2009 / 24 / Man / Likes Women / Single
if its in your regular basis then i prefer to meet a gynecologist. See some time we thought its nothing but the result of delay is not good. i not frightening you just only get heath checkup. They are professionals and can understand the problem easily
and check body
Tango121 / Woman / Likes Men / Married
I don't believe there's such thing as being physically unable to orgasm. In any case, if you had any sexual problems, you would be unable to get excited or aroused, you wouldn't get natural lubrication in your vagina and sex would be rather unpleasant, which you say it isn't. Now, I'm not saying that orgasms are overrated but if you put your mind on your impossibility to have one during sex, you will miss a lot of what's going on there. Sex is a combination of body & mind. Surrender yourself to the magic and pleasure. Listen to your own body. Since this is your first sexual partner, it is only logical that you haven't quite figured out what you like in bed. You only know what you like him to do to you and vice versa, but the world of possibilities in sex is limitless. Try masturbating in private. Search your own body. Remember: sex does not start when genitals come in contact; it starts much sooner than that. Now, try having sex sitting on him and ask him to stimulate your clitoris in the meantime. In general, a combination of stimulating the G spot and the clitoris is infallible. And take your time. Just because some women cum in no time doesn't mean you have to. Forget about what you've read and heard from other women. Create your own sexual experience and enjoy it. Good luck!
Adrian / 29 / Man / Likes Women / Single
ok........ i beleive that those 'spasms' you have felt WERE orgasms. but since they are not what you expected, you never realized it.
Alf / 27 / Man / Likes Women / Single
You need to push threw the sensativity and cum. That happened for the first time with me. I could masterbate for an hour and nothing. Finally 1 day I came like a water balloon. If that don't work then see a gyno.
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