When ever im having sew w/ my girl it takes me FOREVER to cum. I have no idea why, but I keep getting close and then losing it. I know most girls think this is a dream come true, but its not when you start heading into overtime. She ends up sore and I end up feeling horrible, which puts that much more pressure on the next time. She tries to tell me that its ok...but I know that she feels bad that I couldnt cum...like I dont find her attractive enough. The thing is...I just cant relax enough. How do I learn to just "let go"?
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Dan / Woman / Likes Men / Single
You're thinking too much. Having sex is a mental game as well as a physical one. You say that it "puts that much more pressure on the next time." That means it's consuming your mindset during sex, which is something you need to avoid.
During sex your mind should be pretty much vacant. Next time you're having sex, don't think about how you need to cum: If you're gonna think about anything, think about how sexy your girlfriend is. Imagine all the sexual things you'd like to do to her, like if you were masturbating. Let your fantasies run wild while you're having sex. Then, as you're getting close to cumming, don't make a big deal about it. I feel like when you get close, you're thinking, "I'm about to cum! I'm about to cum...Shit, I lost it!" Again, don't make it a big deal...just let it happen. Then my man, before you know it, you're gonna blow a load that can impregnate a colony. Whether or not that's a good thing, I'm not sure...I just felt like writing that.
After that happens, make sure you tell your girlfriend how good in bed she is and how much she turns you on. That will eliminate her insecurities, and make her want to please you twice as much.
Grs / Woman / Likes Men / Single
you're not into her or she's not responding to whatever you're doing.
I've had experiences where I felt the temperature inside my partner's vagina was so hot I had to slow things down a bit or else I was going to ejaculate within minutes.
I also had experiences where the inside of the vagina was luke warm and even somewhat on the colder side. I noticed those experiences weren't as enjoyable and took forever for me to cum.
The entire experience is like an electric current the more excited you make her the more exciting in turn she's gonna make you. Basic attraction does go a long way but when that isn't working, you have to substitute with man made replacements i.e: oral stimulation, touching, etc, etc, etc...
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