Iv been with my boyfriend for nearly 4 and a half years! i no this sounds stupid but he never asks for sex nd when i approah the subject this time isnt right or hes tired! then when we actually sta doing anything it breaks out in a fight because i like different positions and he goes mad cause he starts to go soft from all the moving around! When i ask him does he actually want to have sex, he accuses me of pressuring him!is there something i should be worrying about or am i just being paranoid, we have been going our for nearly 4 and a half years
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Chris / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Has he been going through some tough times? I ask because stress can affect his man hood part. If you has been stress from work, family, etc...
Jenny / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Four and half years is a long time and as a woman I understand how frustrating it can be to think you're not able to please your man or that he's not interested in sex with you. I'm sure he is still into you and not lying when he says he's tired. Sex should not cause any arguments or paranoia in a healthy relationship. I suggest you both try to discuss it calmly without any pressure on either party. Perhaps coming up with a sexy night of the week will make the both of you have something to look forward to and take the pressure off your boyfriend to perform at an instant's notice. Maybe even do relaxing things together like bubble baths and massages which I'm sure will set him in the mood if he has had a rough day. Although spontaneity is fun, it seems like something is stressing him out and you want to make him feel at ease with you. Discuss your issues and together you can devise a plan that will work for the both of you. Remember, everything passes and that it could just be a phase. Rest assured there's always a solution and until then just stay calm and ease him into it; I can assure you he will fall for the bait. Good luck!!
B / 29 / Man / Likes Women / Single
I think this is definitely stress related. I would not pressure him as I have been there before. Stress can cause many problems. The more pressure the worse it is. Also, he may be so pressured and that could cause him to worry more about not being able to perform which makes it worse. I suggest leaving him alone for a bit and just letting him know you support him and it'll pass I'm sure.
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