I am married but sadly, i have an affair with a black man. Yeah, i enjoy the thrill but i never had an orgasm with him. why is that? but whenever my husband and i make love almost everytime i orgasm. not only once but twice. I'm confused right now, i love my husband but i enjoy being with somebody else..the question is why I can't have an orgasm with my boyfriend?..and why I have this affair? i feel so guilty...i'm inlove with both men
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AskMyGF / 22 / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Only you know the real reason that you're having an affair. All cheating is the same though...you felt the need to get something from another man that your husband couldn't offer. Usually, it's sex people need, but in your case, I'd say the other man gives you some kind of emotional connection that your husband doesn't. That's why you're drawn to him.
You can't orgasm with him either because you feel guilty or because he's bad in bed. Either way, you probably won't have an orgasm until everything comes out in the open. If you want to get rid of the guilt, you're going to have to make a decision - a tough one. you say you're in love with both me, but that's because they each fill different needs you have. You must determine who fills the most needs...who completes you the most. In a life or death situation, who could you see yourself saving? Who could you see yourself growing old with? Who could you see yourself happily dying next to? That is the person you need to be with. Whether you choose to tell the other person about all of this is up to you, but you won't be better until you stay with just one of them.
Also note that if you can't see either of them completing you, you may want to drop them both and seek out someone you won't be forced to have an affair on or with.
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