I've been having trouble trying to make my girlfriend have an orgasm. I've tried using my fingers to stimulate her and everything. I can't seem to make this happen though. Is it me just me or is it her? I am beginning to think it is me and my confidence has dropped big time. Please help me.
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Exokisa / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Don’t despair! A lot of guys have this problem. In all the years that I have been having sex, only one person has ever made me cum. That person is me. Now, it’s not all sad faces and deflated balloons. I have had orgasms while in the presence of others, even during sex. I am pretty confidant that it can be the same for your girlfriend.
If your girlfriend has been masturbating for a while, she may have grown accustom to a very specific kind of sensation. Your hands probably differ in size, texture and dexterity to hers. My boyfriend for instance has huge hands and I have a small clit. It’s pretty much impossible for him to stroke me at the speed and in the exact spot that I like. So just let her do it herself in the beginning.
Try penetrating her while she is masturbating or when she is close to orgasm in order to heighten the sensation. Let her lie in a position that is almost exactly like the one she normally masturbates in and try to fit yourself in the picture in an unobtrusive manner. When she is more accustomed to having you inside of her while she orgasms, her body will start to associate having sex with having an orgasm.
A lot of women enjoy oral sex. If you haven’t tried it yet, give this a try. You might also want to try letting her use your hand. You’ll get a better idea of what she likes from seeing and feeling how she would do it.
Msrk / Woman / Likes Men / Single
You suck. Don't be such a sore loser. Kidding.
I think it could be any number of things. Don't listen to the bullshit about finger textures - it's size that matters. Keep counting and put it in her little hole.
Captaineinrad / Woman / Likes Men / Single
First, if you haven't yet, find out if she's had orgasms before- some girls haven't. If she has, ask for help. Surely she wants you to give her an orgasm just as much as you want to give one to her. Let her know that.
If she hasn't, go slowly and steadily. Aim for the clitoris, and don't be too rough.
Sexnthecity2000 / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Not all girls can orgasm from intercourse. Some need to be in a certain position, need clitoral stimulation with your fingers at the same time, or can only orgasm from oral sex or masturbation. It may have nothing to do with your abilities, and everything to do with finding the way your girlfriend is most comfortable in achieving orgasm. Are you using a lot of foreplay beforehand? Some girls need additional stimulation before they can be worked up to a point of orgasm. I would try and see if I could help her orgasm using your mouth, tongue, and fingers. This way, you can make it all about HER; hopefully, she can guide you to what makes her most excited and aroused. Once you help her orgasm this way, you will be able to integrate that way into your other sexual positions. Also, encourage her to touch herself during intercourse, and show you what to do with your hands at the same time.
Ja / Woman / Likes Men / Single
I am in my early 30s & there has only been one person other than myself to give me an orgasm in my entire life and it wasn't my husband. Don't get discouraged. My husband used to think it was his fault, but its not. Some women really do have issues and remember everyone IS different. Just enjoy each other and make each time an experience to remember....for both of you.
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