Here's what I find work (any girls here please correct me):
1. Start with a slow rubbing motion first... not hard, just rub the entire area top and bottom with your whole hand -- no fingers yet. This is to get her slightly turned on and wet.
2. Slowly continue the rubbing motion,but use your three middle fingers now and slowly use the two outside ones to open up her lips and rub the middle finger side-to-side
3. inside of her lips. No heavy rubbing yet!!! Rub until you start to feel her getting wet. At this point, you can introduce the middle finger slowly insider her, going as far as she is getting wet, no more!
4. Now that she is all good and wet, this is the important part... you gotta use her natural lube to help you rub her clitoris. Rubbing willy-nilly with your hands is not good, as some girls can't stand the dry friction.
5. Now you can experiment with different "diddling" motions! A good one is up and down and every few strokes wetting your finger inside her again. Generally that will drive her crazy!
6. But! Vary your stroke. Be a good lover and listen to her breathing! She does not have to be saying anything. Just listen closely to her breathing. That will tell you if she's bored or getting excited and clue you into whether or not you should continue the current type of stroke, or even intensify it.
7. No need to say it, but lemme do anyway... Very important to try to keep your finger wet, and not manhandle her clitoris. Clits are sensitive and need to be gently, but firmly rubbed to have good effect.
A good way to listen to her breathing of course, is to be kissing her at the same time! At some point she will be breathing so heavy that she can't kiss anymore, and you'll know that you hit the spot.
BigJoe's got it down pretty much...the wetness is the key undoubtedly. Without that, it sucks....it doesn't even feel like something really. A lot of guys think they can just start rubbing away and a girl will get turned on. Wrong-oh. In any event, you also have to make sure the girl has the right mindset for sex in general. A little foreplay goes a long way....seriously. A good makeout session, some nipple sucking...that'll get her ready for action. Then I suppose just follow the steps provided by the big guy and you should be good to go :)
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Thor / 47 / Man / Likes Women / Single
Here's what I find work (any girls here please correct me):
1. Start with a slow rubbing motion first... not hard, just rub the entire area top and bottom with your whole hand -- no fingers yet. This is to get her slightly turned on and wet.
2. Slowly continue the rubbing motion,but use your three middle fingers now and slowly use the two outside ones to open up her lips and rub the middle finger side-to-side
3. inside of her lips. No heavy rubbing yet!!! Rub until you start to feel her getting wet. At this point, you can introduce the middle finger slowly insider her, going as far as she is getting wet, no more!
4. Now that she is all good and wet, this is the important part... you gotta use her natural lube to help you rub her clitoris. Rubbing willy-nilly with your hands is not good, as some girls can't stand the dry friction.
5. Now you can experiment with different "diddling" motions! A good one is up and down and every few strokes wetting your finger inside her again. Generally that will drive her crazy!
6. But! Vary your stroke. Be a good lover and listen to her breathing! She does not have to be saying anything. Just listen closely to her breathing. That will tell you if she's bored or getting excited and clue you into whether or not you should continue the current type of stroke, or even intensify it.
7. No need to say it, but lemme do anyway... Very important to try to keep your finger wet, and not manhandle her clitoris. Clits are sensitive and need to be gently, but firmly rubbed to have good effect.
Thor / 47 / Man / Likes Women / Single
A good way to listen to her breathing of course, is to be kissing her at the same time! At some point she will be breathing so heavy that she can't kiss anymore, and you'll know that you hit the spot.
AskMyGF / 22 / Woman / Likes Men / Single
BigJoe's got it down pretty much...the wetness is the key undoubtedly. Without that, it sucks....it doesn't even feel like something really. A lot of guys think they can just start rubbing away and a girl will get turned on. Wrong-oh. In any event, you also have to make sure the girl has the right mindset for sex in general. A little foreplay goes a long way....seriously. A good makeout session, some nipple sucking...that'll get her ready for action. Then I suppose just follow the steps provided by the big guy and you should be good to go :)
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