My boyfriend and I moved in together after 8 months of dating. We're still adjusting to our differences, but I still feel exhausted. This whole experience has just worn me out to the point that I come home, eat, then go to bed. This doesn't fly with my boyfriend, who is constantly waking up to have sex with me. Sometimes I'll go for it even though I'm not in the mood, other times I just want to go to bed. I don't know what to do. How can I perk up enough to please my boyfriend?
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Dan / Woman / Likes Men / Single
The fact that you feel the need to "perk up" to please him is not good. Sex with your significant other should be natural, not forced. Do you feel that you're less, just as, or more attracted to him than you were during the first month of dating?
It is true that men have a reputation of always being horny, but the physical side of a relationship is just as important as the emotional side. It is very hard to have a successful relationship without good sex, just like it's hard to have one without good conversation. You say that "sometimes I'll go for it even though I'm not in the mood." Well, are you ever in the mood? You're making it out to be like sex is a chore. Moving in is a big step, and your fatigue is understandable, but you shouldn't be tired all the time.
What's your idea of a romantic night? This weekend, incorporate that into your next date, and that might put you in the mood. You'll be so appreciative of your man's romantic prowess that you'll want to properly thank him. If that doesn't work for you, try watching pornography with him. That might sound sleazy, but sometimes it can give you ideas and provide a much needed spark.
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