My boyfriend and I have been on and off for about 8 years. We started as best friends, and things kinda just took off from there. Right now apparently were "off". ... because >>>>>>>The other night we were supposed to go see "The Woman In Black", but he bailed at the last minute because he said he was hanging out with a girl from his school. This is NOT the first time he's ditched me for another girl.. I acted like I was fine with it at first, but then i kinda blew up at him. It was kinda like the last straw.He says im paranoid, and that i'm not the ony girl he's allowed to hang out with.. (which I know, but he's cheated on me before and im sure he'd do it again.). I dont know why but I always fall head over heels for him, again and again and again. I feel like I can't stop loving him. I honestly feel trapped and really don't know what to do. I'm pretty sure that the crying and fights and yelling and depression isn't worth it anymore. Should we be off for good?
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Adrian / 29 / Man / Likes Women / Single
short and sour- he's obviously moved on, you should too. it's not about him being an asshole (and i should know about being an asshole!) it's about him taking opportunity when it arises. i mean, come on, you guys are 'off', so why go out w/ his on/off when he's got another option available? think about it.
GG / 32 / Woman / Likes Women / Married
I know he is allowed female friends but i think he is playing on your guilt too much with this. Is he hanging out with just this girl or a group of people? If' it's just the girl then i'd be telling him it's not cool and he knows why it isn't.
I'm not sure how old you are but i can tell you that if your relationship is making you depressed it is definitely not worth it it. Been there done that. You think things will change and deep down you know they wont but you are scared how things will be without him. Trust me on this, you have to leave him, now. You will do it eventually and then wonder why the hell you didn't do it sooner.
cleverKAL / 20 / Man / Likes Women / Single
I'm gonna have to agree with GG 100% on this, I'm a guy and I think it's fucked up how he keeps manipulating you, I knew guys like that, who like GG said, " is playing on your guilt too much " Those kind of dudes never change, they will always take advantage and twist the reality of the situation. Like GG said, " you are scared how things will be without him" thats why you keep falling for him. Love is not something that happens just once, you move on and find another to love for different reasons, hopefully someone who treats you better. So end it, and find someone who doesn't make you feel like you have to constantly be looking over your shoulder.
John / Man / Likes Women / Single
Um yeah he's a asshole
Bastagde / Man / Likes Women / In a relationship
It seems the others have covered it pretty well but i just wanted to add we don't learn anything if there are no consequences to our actions. He cheated and you took him back he goes out with other women knowing it bothers you...why cant you be there too or if this girl he speaks of is really a friend she could hang out with the 2 of you as opposed to just him and her. In my opinion he is defiantly cheating and you should move on. Also i think you have to ask yourself if you really love him or are you just afraid of being alone. Please don't be offended if i'm wrong almost everybody has that fear and it would not be the first time that a bf/gf used that fear to control his/her mate or just to get away with acting like a douchebag
Adrian ( Resident A-hole) · see!!!! i'm not the only one who says 'douchebag'!
Shorty / Woman / Likes Men / Single
yeah, long storey short hes an ass hole, if he really loved you or wanted you he would be with you no excuses. He wouldnt need nor want to hang out with other girls if he actually wanted to be with you.
Browser / 25 / Man / Likes Women / Single
The short answer is yes. The long answer is yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeees.
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