Hi! I have been trying to promote a more open relationship in terms of sex with my wife, as it is my philosophy that people who are married should eventually experience EVERYTHING relating to sex, as you are only going to be having sex with each other for your entire lives.
However, I have been having difficulty getting her to watch the askmygirlfriend videos, or do anything that could be considered "research", as she believes that this puts too much work into sex and makes it less fun. I have tried to see if she will watch the videos with me, or perhaps if I can do a chore while she watches the videos, but I cannot seem to find any method that she is really taking to.
Do you have any ideas how I can make her mind a little more open, and at least make her willing to learn new things sexually?
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Adrian / 29 / Man / Likes Women / Single
some people (like ur wife) view ANYTHING remotely like research as homework, and that means school-work, and that automatically turns them off! sorry dude....
Otto / Man / Likes Women / Single
Yeah, like Adrian says, you may be experiencing her discomfort or worry in what you are " secretly" trying to tell her. She may be looking deeper into the meaning behind your requests that you are. Might want to have more dialog with her about your needs.
Secondly, she needs to be able to separate the act of sex or love making with the communication part. No woman likes sex to be clinical, especially when they are ( usually ) more emotionally driven that we are.
Maybe you need to be a little more specific, or you could just add a few new things slowly. Some times a dab will do yah. Not really sure what kind of things your asking for. If you guys are just doing missionary coitus, yeah, things can get boring.
How engaged in sex play are you two? Is she reluctant to try new things?
Micheal / Man / Likes Women / In a relationship
otto has good points....there is a fire buring deeper in this issue than you are telling. she has been giving you clues all along yet you are not listening to her as much as you are trying to open her mind. here's hoping on more to this question than you are asking. I may be dense here but there is something else that you are not saying about this dilema.
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