my boyfriend and i have made sex tapes on his phone but he doesnt watch them any more he want to watch and look at porn. and it makes me feel not sexy anymore. what is it about porn that gys love so much? we have been together for two years
Hi! I deal with this with my fiancée as well. She used to feel the same way you did. You just have to realize that just because a guy watches porn does not mean he does not find you attractive. I know personally I am just as attracted to my fiancée as when we first met. I know for me, I use porn as a stimulation method for masterbating. My fiancée would always say, "I'm ok with you masterbating, but why do you have to use porn!" And honestly I could not use porn, but then every time I masterbate would turn into a one hour session, which is far too long. Imagine an equivalent as you using your vibrator during sex. You just use it to help stimulate your body responses and reach climax quicker and stronger. You do not find your man's penis any less attractive; or want to use it any less. It's the same with men and porn. And keep in mind, it's not always the attractive women that guys watch porn for; the noises, scenarios, and fetishes are just (if not more) as important.
The two instances where I think porn can become a problem is if 1) your man no longer wants to have sex with you because of the porn; and 2) your man cannot get arroused at all without watching porn. If he is still wanting to have sex with you an just watches porn to masterbate, I do not think you have anything to worry about. And maybe you could talk to your partner and see what it is about porn he likes. If there are things (and there probably are) that he wants to try with you and doesn't feel comfortable, this might be the only way he can get it. Communication is important. And who knows, you might find that if you say down with your man and watched some, you might enjoy it yourself!!
11 months ago
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Nike Golfer ·
very nicely said! i agree 100% on that comment! as for him filming you two having sex maybe he is done with that little fetish! some fetishes come and go! maybe that was one of them! Dont feel unattractive just because he doesnt watch the videos anymore either! i had videos of me and my ex girlfriend and i only watched them a couple times and never did that again! But i am sure it has nothing to do with you!
Porn is a turn on and men are visual creatures... Pretty simple to see why guys like it. We are going to masturbate anyway so why not have a little help?
well i mean we watch it together sometimes. but more lately its me giving him a blow job and him watching porn, and than sometime while im at home he goes into the bathroom and locks the door. and does his thing. its been all about him. i dont care if he masterbates but i wld like for him not to use porn. i mean i have outfits and toys i mean masterbate to me how can i get him to see tht there is nothing i tht wouldnt do. and we have dirty talk abt a three way so i no thts not it. its less intercourse, more him and less of a emotional contection for me.
i honestly belive that if you have a girlfriend/fiance what he wants to call me than you shouldnt need to watch porn she shld be enough for you if she is willing to try new things like i am. i can understand if you dont have a girl than go ahead and watch it all you want but if you got the reallly infront of you and you want to watch porn your crazy, and if you chose porn over you girl than your really crazy. porn cant show you love,effection, or cuddle and sleepin with you at night. so why ruin a relationship over the porn its it simple if it the girl over the porn its always gonna be the girl.
11 months ago
JackofHearts ·
That is true. At first I thought you meant that he just finds time to still do it every once in a while. But if he's watching it while you service him AND he chooses to watch it alone in the bathroom, while you're there, then it sounds like he's really taking you for granted. Especially if you have outfits, toys, and you dirty talk, I'd have no need to watch it, unless you were gone for a weekend or something like that. That's the only time he should be doing it, cause it sounds and looks like he's already got the whole package.
I like Brandon's answer. I would only add that when a man owns a great sports car he doesn't stop admiring other sports cars. Its human nature. I don't understand why some women believe that their boyfriend's enjoyment of beauty or sexiness should end with her. Maybe it will help to tell yourself that while he continues to enjoy viewing beauty and sex, it is you who reaps the benefits. It is you who he will sharing his fantasies with.
man! i dont know why guys like porn! my boyfriend watches it every now and then! he says he doesnt and swears up and down that he doesnt lol! but he is stupid with computers and doesnt delete his previously viewed websites lol! He doesnt know i know! I think he watches it just to get turned on by it? we have been together only 8 months now and we have sex 3 or 4 times a week and he cums each time! so thats good for me! lol
11 months ago
TrueLoveSwallows ·
Because its a turn on. It may be the closest he ever gets to realizing his fantasy of a three-way or orgy. Because guys enjoy watching porn doesn't mean that they would prefer the women in porn nor to become the guys with them. Some guys love Westerns but I doubt if more than a few will ever become cowboys. Some guys love to watch race cars, but that doesn't mean they will become a race car driver. Fantasy can be fun without becoming reality.
JackofHearts ·
Yeah, when I watch porn it's less about the girl, and more about the sounds she makes, and the way she has sex. Like : Is she really into it, or is she clearly just doing it for a paycheck. It's that level of intensity. It's just like when you notice when someone is a really shitty actor, you start to lose interest in the film. But then you can tell when someone is doing it cause they really love the craft, and that's what makes them great, so then you let yourself get lost in the movie, because the actors are so believeable. It's similar to the way porn stars have sex. I can always tell which woman is faking, and that fucks it up for me, if they don't have that love of sex.
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Brandon / Man / Likes Women / Single
Hi! I deal with this with my fiancée as well. She used to feel the same way you did. You just have to realize that just because a guy watches porn does not mean he does not find you attractive. I know personally I am just as attracted to my fiancée as when we first met. I know for me, I use porn as a stimulation method for masterbating. My fiancée would always say, "I'm ok with you masterbating, but why do you have to use porn!" And honestly I could not use porn, but then every time I masterbate would turn into a one hour session, which is far too long. Imagine an equivalent as you using your vibrator during sex. You just use it to help stimulate your body responses and reach climax quicker and stronger. You do not find your man's penis any less attractive; or want to use it any less. It's the same with men and porn. And keep in mind, it's not always the attractive women that guys watch porn for; the noises, scenarios, and fetishes are just (if not more) as important.
The two instances where I think porn can become a problem is if 1) your man no longer wants to have sex with you because of the porn; and 2) your man cannot get arroused at all without watching porn. If he is still wanting to have sex with you an just watches porn to masterbate, I do not think you have anything to worry about. And maybe you could talk to your partner and see what it is about porn he likes. If there are things (and there probably are) that he wants to try with you and doesn't feel comfortable, this might be the only way he can get it. Communication is important. And who knows, you might find that if you say down with your man and watched some, you might enjoy it yourself!!
Nike Golfer · very nicely said! i agree 100% on that comment! as for him filming you two having sex maybe he is done with that little fetish! some fetishes come and go! maybe that was one of them! Dont feel unattractive just because he doesnt watch the videos anymore either! i had videos of me and my ex girlfriend and i only watched them a couple times and never did that again! But i am sure it has nothing to do with you!
Davedude / 46 / Man / Likes Women / Married
Porn is a turn on and men are visual creatures... Pretty simple to see why guys like it. We are going to masturbate anyway so why not have a little help?
Jess / 21 / Woman / Likes Men / In a relationship
well i mean we watch it together sometimes. but more lately its me giving him a blow job and him watching porn, and than sometime while im at home he goes into the bathroom and locks the door. and does his thing. its been all about him. i dont care if he masterbates but i wld like for him not to use porn. i mean i have outfits and toys i mean masterbate to me how can i get him to see tht there is nothing i tht wouldnt do. and we have dirty talk abt a three way so i no thts not it. its less intercourse, more him and less of a emotional contection for me.
Jess / 21 / Woman / Likes Men / In a relationship
i honestly belive that if you have a girlfriend/fiance what he wants to call me than you shouldnt need to watch porn she shld be enough for you if she is willing to try new things like i am. i can understand if you dont have a girl than go ahead and watch it all you want but if you got the reallly infront of you and you want to watch porn your crazy, and if you chose porn over you girl than your really crazy. porn cant show you love,effection, or cuddle and sleepin with you at night. so why ruin a relationship over the porn its it simple if it the girl over the porn its always gonna be the girl.
JackofHearts · That is true. At first I thought you meant that he just finds time to still do it every once in a while. But if he's watching it while you service him AND he chooses to watch it alone in the bathroom, while you're there, then it sounds like he's really taking you for granted. Especially if you have outfits, toys, and you dirty talk, I'd have no need to watch it, unless you were gone for a weekend or something like that. That's the only time he should be doing it, cause it sounds and looks like he's already got the whole package.
TrueLoveSwallows / Man / Likes Women / Single
I like Brandon's answer. I would only add that when a man owns a great sports car he doesn't stop admiring other sports cars. Its human nature. I don't understand why some women believe that their boyfriend's enjoyment of beauty or sexiness should end with her. Maybe it will help to tell yourself that while he continues to enjoy viewing beauty and sex, it is you who reaps the benefits. It is you who he will sharing his fantasies with.
Bigpun / 48 / Man / Likes Women / Married
He can see you naked anytime. He like me wants to see other girls naked that he normally wouldnt
Mickey / Woman / Likes Bisexuals / Single
man! i dont know why guys like porn! my boyfriend watches it every now and then! he says he doesnt and swears up and down that he doesnt lol! but he is stupid with computers and doesnt delete his previously viewed websites lol! He doesnt know i know! I think he watches it just to get turned on by it? we have been together only 8 months now and we have sex 3 or 4 times a week and he cums each time! so thats good for me! lol
TrueLoveSwallows · Because its a turn on. It may be the closest he ever gets to realizing his fantasy of a three-way or orgy. Because guys enjoy watching porn doesn't mean that they would prefer the women in porn nor to become the guys with them. Some guys love Westerns but I doubt if more than a few will ever become cowboys. Some guys love to watch race cars, but that doesn't mean they will become a race car driver. Fantasy can be fun without becoming reality.
JackofHearts · Yeah, when I watch porn it's less about the girl, and more about the sounds she makes, and the way she has sex. Like : Is she really into it, or is she clearly just doing it for a paycheck. It's that level of intensity. It's just like when you notice when someone is a really shitty actor, you start to lose interest in the film. But then you can tell when someone is doing it cause they really love the craft, and that's what makes them great, so then you let yourself get lost in the movie, because the actors are so believeable. It's similar to the way porn stars have sex. I can always tell which woman is faking, and that fucks it up for me, if they don't have that love of sex.