Regardless of whether you are going for fun or looking for love, speed dating can be a great way to meet people. The basic concept is you have between 3 and 10 minutes to spend with a person to get to know them as best you can for possible future dates. Sometimes this can be a difficult task as you may struggle with what questions to ask. Well, have no fear, here are several examples below of what to ask and why.
Background questions
First things first, you should get a little bit of background on who you are talking to. These kinds of questions may also establish some common ground between the two of you. So, without delving too deep into the dark secrets of their past, you may want to start with all or any combination of the following: What do you do for a living? Where are you from?What do you do for fun? Do you want to get married or have you been married already? Would you eventually want to have children or do you already have children?
Fun questions
Second, see how they react to being put on the spot, throw in some “just for fun” questions. For example: If you were a tree, what kind of tree would you be?If you could be anyone else, living or dead, for one day, who would you be? What is your perfection vacation?Who was your childhood hero?What was the first movie you went to see in the theater?If you could live anywhere, where would that be? And why? These may seem like silly questions, but they have a twofold purpose. First, they show that you have a light, fun side. Second, they give you an idea of your “date’s” personality and if your personalities are compatible.
Compatibility questions
Finally, you should probably ask some compatibility questions. These will help you determine if you are looking for the same things in a mate. This would be something like: Do you believe in love at first sight?Why did your last relationship end?Is sexual attraction important to you?What do you look for in a partner?What is the most important aspect of a relationship to you? These may sound like deep questions, but they will help you decide if you and your “date” are heading in the same direction. Hopefully, toward a second more relaxing date.
Some questions you won’t need to ask
Although it is ok to ask about someone’s past, at this point, you really don’t need that much detail. I would also avoid asking questions about criminal history. At current, it’s not your business. If you get a second date with this person, you may want to come up with a different more in-depth list of things you want to know. Also, if it turns out that you didn’t find a compatible match this time, try again. The great thing about speed dating is that you get a new date every 3 to 10 minutes. If you really aren’t that interested in the person sitting in front of you, wait a few minutes. Another will come along.
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