In order to have an orgasm without ever having sex, a man or a woman needs another method of stimulating themselves. For men, arousing themselves is a not a hard problem to solve. Men are very much visually oriented when it comes to stimulation. Women, on the other hand, require a bit more effort. While they may be stimulated visually, less than 2% of women can achieve an orgasm without some form of human, or mechanical, touch. This guide below will help you understand how to arouse your partner and how to help them achieve their climax without intercourse.
Relaxation
The first key to having an orgasm without ever having sex is to relax. This may sound deceptively simple. However, the pressure to have an orgasm from either sex can be an inhibitor to enjoying foreplay. The infamous PC muscle is the main muscle that controls groinal activity in men and women. Tension in this muscle, or in the legs or buttocks, can make bringing orgasm around just that much more difficult. Ask your partner to massage you if you cannot relax on your own. Always remember to take your time.
For Men
Men are notoriously easy to arouse. In addition to visual stimulation, a simple kiss can bring about arousal. It is the thought of what that kiss might lead to later that is so exciting. It is possible to arouse a man to the point that he explodes without ever touching him. If this does not happen, a simple blow job can quickly bring about an orgasm without ever having sex.
For Women
Women require a gentle touch. Besides relaxation, a woman almost also requires some amount of clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm without ever having sex. You and your partner can experiment with what types of speed and touch work well for her. If all else fails, there are a wide variety of mechanical toys that are more than able to do the job.
Experiment
These techniques are simply suggestions. Each person is wired differently when it comes to what it takes for them to have an orgasm without ever having sex. Do not be afraid to try your own ideas. If you have another non sexual idea for achieving orgasm, then do it. First and foremost in sex, you should be aware of your partner’s wants and needs.
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