Have you tried countless times to stick your junk in her trunk, only to feel the cold hand of rejection sliding you elsewhere? There are reasons for that. Read below to find out just why your girl doesn't want to be done in the butt...
1. It's messy.
Women don't like to wipe their own asses, let alone have the insides of them coming in and out over and over again. Your dick turns into a turd crayon really quickly, and no woman will find that attractive.
2. It takes more work.
To slip into her butt, you have to use lube. Lube is work. Women produce vag lube naturally, so why would they move to a hole where they have to add something in? You might as well be humping her belly button.
3. It's risky.
Sure, vaginal sex can lead to a baby, but proper birth control can help prevent that. One slip out of that hole and into another, and you could have the makings of a stinky southern border with an infection. Slippage is harder to stop than a pregnancy (in this case).
4. It makes "things" uncomfortable.
Have you ever tried to take a crap after having a remote control shoved up your ass? Do that and then get back to me.
5. It hurts!
We all know this one, but ya, anal hurts. Sure, women can relax and some enjoy it, bla bla bla. For the most part though, anal just feels like childbirth...in reverse...out of the wrong hole. You can't blame us for being hesitant.
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Tango121 / Woman / Likes Men / Married
Dear AskMyGF,
I believe it is time to demystify anal sex, once and for all.
If I may, I would like to comment on each of your '5 reasons why your girlfriend does not want anal sex'. In any case, I would give one single reason why: fear of the unknown.
1. It's messy.
True. Same as sex when the girl has her period. Same as blowing a man who has just peed. Same as eating a burguer and have mayo and ketchup and stuff all over your face. Big deal. Nothing you can't solve with a simple Kleenex. And it is totally worth it. I'm not saying it is amazing to have your partner stop anal sex to go clean up but shit happens, literally. So what?
2. It takes more work.
Lube is great, whether you need it or not. Some people enjoy the cold, slippery feeling of lub in their genitals. It does enhance the feeling and makes everything easier.
3. It's risky.
Sex in general can be risky if you're having it with a stranger. If you're having it with someone you know and trust, simple instructions can eliminate all risks. It is common knowledge that you are not suppose to have vaginal sex after anal sex without cleaning up. And if it isn't common knowledge, then it should be.
4. It makes "things" uncomfortable.
If you are well lubricated and your anus is dilated, there is no reason why it should be uncomfortable.
5. It hurts!
Believing this statement prevented me from enjoying anal sex for YEARS. Don't you think it is time to demythologize it? It hurts if and only if: a) Your partner tries to do without giving you the heads up, with no extra lubrication and with no permission. b) You are lubricated but your partner does not take the time to further stimulate the area c) Your partner is extremely big and a) & b) combined. d) You have hemorrhoids or some other kind of swelling or inflamation.
Anal sex can be AMAZING if done properly :)
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