Many single people constantly complain about being single and they could probably write a book with a handful of the excuses as to why they're single. However, all of their reasons for being single are nothing more than excuses. If you're one of those people that have psyched themselves out of dating, take a look at this list of bad excuses to see if your reasoning is faulty – if so, get out there and start dating!
Excuse #1: I Haven't Met Anyone I'm Interested In
Claiming that you haven't met anyone that you're interested in is a bad excuse for either A) no confidence, B) laziness, or C) shallowness. There has to be someone that you have seen or talked to that sparked your interest, but something inside of you stopped you from making a move. It's possible that you were intimidated by this person or perhaps you feared rejection. If this is the case, always remember that you have nothing to lose – the worst thing that will happen is the person will say no and you will move on. Sometimes a person doesn't make a move because they're just too lazy to put the effort into hitting on someone; in this case only you can fix the problem. Finally, it's possible that you're just too shallow – no one is ever good enough for you: they're too tall, too short, too fat, too skinny, too cross-eyed, etc. If this is the case then realize that nobody is perfect (including you), so pay more attention to the good features and avoid dwelling on their flaws. Pick your poison but all of these are bad excuses for being single.
Excuse #2: I Don't Have Time To Date
When you want something bad enough you need to make time for it – don't complain about being single if you're not willing to take some time to date. Register on a dating website and browse around for ten minutes a day (while you're at work, on a break, at school, etc.), that is enough time to find someone that seems interesting and initiate contact. There is no possible way that you're busy 24-hours a day, 7-days a week. Take some time out of your schedule to go out and meet people. If you're really in a rush then devote an hour of your time to a speed-dating session to meet some singles. In any case, if you want to date then you need to find the time in your busy life to do so.
Excuse #3: There Are No Quality Men/Women Where I Live
Unless you live in an underground lair, there are quality men/women where you live. You're not going to find dates sitting in your basement so hit the town and visit local hangouts for people your age. There are going to be some weird and trashy people anywhere you go, but there will also be normal and respectable people as well. It's not that you need to find a better area for singles, you just need to have a better attitude.
Excuse #4: I Cannot Afford To Take Someone Out
This excuse is usually used by men because they feel pressured to pay for a date; nonetheless, the excuse is still a bad one. Almost anyone can compile enough money to take someone out to dinner and a movie. There is no where in the rule book that states that you need to go to an expensive steak dinner – take your date to a fun burger joint! If you literally do not have a penny to spend then take your date to the museum on a free day, to the beach, or on a picnic. If you go on Google and type in "free date ideas," you will find millions of results to help you out. Having no money is an invalid excuse for not dating.
Excuse #5: Online Dating Means I'm Desperate
If online dating is a sign of being desperate then there are millions of people all over the world that are desperate to meet someone. People of all ages are using online dating websites because it is a way to meet other singles without having that risk of being publicly humiliated and rejected. Also, it allows people to sort of get to know a person before they ask them out, so they don't bother dating someone that they're incompatible with. There is absolutely nothing wrong with online dating, plenty of people that are good catches do it, and you might be surprised to find out how many non-desperate people surf dating websites.
Excuse #6: If It's Meant To Be, It Will Happen
This is another excuse that people use so they don't have to put any effort into finding a date. Fate might exist to an extent but no man/woman is going to drop from the Heavens and come find you – you need to make it happen. Put yourself out there and look for someone, rather than waiting around for someone to find you. If everyone had the attitude that it will happen if it's meant to be, then everyone would also be single and waiting for it to just happen to them.
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