Hey, OK so I'm a really open person and very experimental when it comes to sex, and my boyfriend is the same way, were always trying new things.. but one thing he is really into Ive never tried yet. My bf really wants to try bondage, and though he is my first none of his ex's have never tried it with him either..I'm willing to try, it looks fun :D so can you give me some tips and ideas to maybe surprise him with one day?? Thanks :)
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GG / 32 / Woman / Likes Women / Married
Bondage covers a wide variety of activities. To start with is he the one wanting to be tied up or does he want to do the tying?
GG · Here is a link to a site which you may find helpful. http://hotbondagetips.com/ Learning to do proper bondage ties can take time and patience and lots of practice hehe.
Ella · Both, we both want to try it. but its more so him being tied up.His fantasy..& i wanna fulfill it ;p
GG · Good for you. I love it and i think most women love having that much control over their men for a short while ;-)
Rob ( Spaminator) · short while? we guys are your slaves all the time :P
GG · Just as things should be i say!
Rob ( Spaminator) · yes, mistress....
GG · Hahaha. Stop taking over the OP's question now. If you have any ideas or tips please do share with us. P.S Good boy!
Rob ( Spaminator) · yes mistress! well, if you want to surprise him, be prepared. bondage is as much about the roleplaying as it is about the actual act. so either plan it together or really surprise him and get all the stuff you need (handcuffs or something to tie him up with) and whatever else you might want to use. there is two ways I personally found appealling: either hide everything, seduce him, and bring it out while in bed (so hiding it under the bed or the night stand would be good) and simply start the playing... or if it is more into the whole mistress/slave thing, be dressed up when he comes home and start the show. you don't need to invest too heavily early on (the equipment is rather expensive, especially if you want an outfit and stuff). Use what you got in the household anyway. and here is a free tip: if you use ropes, make sure they are not nylon or any synthetics, because that causes rope burn and can get really annoying. Tape is also not advisable, as it can be a bitch to get off (and some hair will be gone, plus the glue can cause skin irritation). use something made from cotton, silk or hemp, will work just as well without side effects. and agree on a saveword (flugelhorn?)
Rob ( Spaminator) · did I do good, mistress? :P
GG · With regards to the clothing, check with him if you being dressed in a PVC catsuit is his thing as some subs don't actually like that kind of thing. Many prefer their mistress to look just as they would in everyday life, it can make it feel more real rather than just a role play session. Always have him naked if you want him to be compliant! Don't give in too easy and remember you call the shots. You must decide before hand where boundaries lie i.e what he will or will not tolerate at any cost and you must above all else respect him as a sub. He is trusting you, potentially with his life so you have to acknowledge that and preserve that. A good way to get him aroused prior to any session is to sit and talk with him and tell him what you would do to him or have him do to you (yes it's not just about pain! You get a whole lot more than that, pussy licking, foot worship, masaages on your command lol). Explain in detail what you have planned and just watch the reaction! hehehe.
GG · Yes Rob, just fine.
Ella · Ok thanks ALOT :) thats deff alot of help ^.^ i cant wait.
Rob ( Spaminator) · good luck and have fun!
GG · Yeah make sure you have lots of fun! :-)
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