I'm a 23 year old gay male that's been in an open relationship with who I feel is the man of my life for the past six years.
Just recently, however, he has begun to be more and more rough, dare I say painful, in bed, meaning that he doesn't wait for me to adjust to his size (he's 9 inches!). When I bottom (which is most of the time), he pinches, bites the back of my neck, and slaps my ass much harder than normal. We did talk about it, and he said that he thinks that he may be becoming somewhat of a sadist.
Personally, I am not a masochist, so I don't get off to the more painful aspects he has been "treating" me to lately. I'm just looking for advice in dealing with him sexually (he hasn't changed otherwise). I would like to be able to have nice PLEASURABLE sex with him again, however, if we can't find a way to make that happen, we are each willing to just go our separate ways SEXUALLY; we will NOT brake up over a sexual dilemma such as this.
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AskMyGF / 22 / Woman / Likes Men / Single
For one, I commend you for sticking with a man who you may have sexual difference with. I wish others could do the same. This may sound like a dumb question, but have you talked to him about all of this? If not, he may actually be under the impression that you like what is going on. If you have had that discussion and he's still rough with you, try to prolong foreplay as long as possible so you are slightly ready for the force when it comes. Ask him if you can at least get a chance to adjust to his dick and then perhaps keep the smacking or biting around so he still has fun. Really, it's just a matter of compromise. If you can let him be a meany with a gentle beginning, things may work out just fine.
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