Hello...I have 2 question.
I can't find a girlfriend and i am 19 ( never had one yet).I live in small town but i still haven't seen a girl that i would fall in love with or something like that.Ones i tryed to talk with one at first she didn't want to but the day after she told me that i should come to her which i did we said hello to ea other had a little chat and then she went her way and i went mine.The next 4 days we just used phones to talk and ones she offered to meat alone , and ofc i accepted.The thing is, i came but she never showed up and she had excuse like she need to do something for her uncle.Tha's the first thing...
Secound is...ofc i never had sex...and that is killing me but also... when i think of i am like almost sure that i will cum before anything happends...agan is the problem in me or it's natural or what :( i wanna make my life better but no idea how to.
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Adrian / 29 / Man / Likes Women / Single
ok....... i don't know if you re-read your post, but you only asked one question and you didn't even use a question-mark!! (?)
ok, first, you can't be sure if she really did have to do something for her uncle or blew you off. you don't know. second, most guys cum rapidly their first time. don't worry bout it too much.
cleverKAL / 20 / Man / Likes Women / Single
I can't fully relate to the small town aspect of your situation, but I lived in the suburbs where nothing gos on and most people think the same and have the same conversations about shit that I didn't even care about. Maybe it will help a lot if you moved in with a budday, in the city, pull your funds together and find a cheap place. Thats what I'm doing and there's different people from different walks of life, and dating / relationships can be a lot easier. As for the girl who told you to meet but didn't show, maybe she had someone else that she was more interested in, maybe you didn't catch her interest enough ( hence the 4 days you just talked on the phone and didn't see eachother) or maybe she really did have something goin on, but that all depends on how well your date went / how long, what you talked about during your chat / chats on the phone. As for sex : I didn't start having sex until I was 18, so don't feel odd, everyone's different. Plus I wasn't even having that much sex when I first started, I was with someone for 4 months and we would fuck here and there and play out her fantasies, it wasnt until like the last couple months of senior year, that I got into a relationship where we were spending a lot of time between the sheets, even ditching 4th period / playing hooky all day to go home and fuck. So don't worry man, just find someone you can tolerate, have confidence, and once the chance come let it happen don't get nervous. Oh and wear a rubber, that's important man.
Bulldhit / Woman / Likes Women / Single
if it makes you feel better i havent had sex yet and I'm about to turn 20, and dude it kills me sometimes too. but eh fuckit haa. patience is a virtue dude gota have it, and the right time for the right time is the right time. you'll find a girl. cuz when we were born our partner was born also, so she's out there just go with the flow and handle whatever comes your way, dont discourage your name cuz thats a game that'll take you to the grave, sooner than late, you know what im sayn, so its like dont let anythng phase you, play'it off and be like im headed in my own way. stay up mann you not alone in this world, like my friend told me "your special...just like everyone else" and then i started laughing. stay up mi amigo. peace
Adrian ( Resident A-hole) · ......dude.....you sound like mycousin..... that was so many cliches that i lost count! wait, wait, wait.........9...... i think...... wow......
Bulldhit · cliches?
Adrian ( Resident A-hole) · cliches- 'sayings' that are cheesy....
Kameleon / Man / Likes Women / Single
Wow. Thanks guys.
And i have to ask one more thing that i am not so sure about...When u have first sex u cum fast but is there a way to train it, so i could hold it longer or that comes with having lot of sex...i mean is there something that i should think of while doing it for the first time.Two years ago i watched movie : "American pie" and i am confused now.
Adrian ( Resident A-hole) · ok, first things first- don't even THINK about the act of sex! just FEEL.
Kameleon · That is actually so hard.How can i do something without thinking about it???I mean, i can do that but for e.g. while doing hand j but when it comes to a naked girl there's no way not to think of it (for me).
Adrian ( Resident A-hole) · THAT'S why it is very common to ejaculate rather quick.
Kameleon · ok.
cleverKAL · You could try holding it back by slowing your pace down, like if you are pumping her at a considerably fast pace and you feel close to cumming, then slow down to a medium pace, or even a very slow pace. Sometimes you migh have to slow down so much that you're hardly pumping at all, but if you do it right, you should be able to store the orgasm up inside the shaft of your cock, but take a minute before you go back to your rgular pace. If you succeed in doing all that, you will be able to last a little longer, maybe even as long as the first time, or maybe twice as long as the first time. But always wear a rubber just in case you don't do it right and wind up cumming while you're slowing the pace. Always slow the pace for at least a minute. Anyway, this has worked for me and a couple friends, we call it dick discipline, it's most likely been discovered before but I thought of it on my own, while jerkin off, oh yeah and you can also try it that way too, and have your girlfriend help you, thats fun.
Kameleon / Man / Likes Women / Single
Ok will do when i get a chanse :) thanks for the advices.
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