I have an addiction to having sex, but not to the point where I should get help for it just if I am dating someone I constantly need to have it. My boyfriend currently keeps getting angry with me because I will keep him up at night until we have it. I really like him a lot and part of my sexual urges are just because I want him and like him, but he is not understanding that. He always asks why we can't cuddle or just "be cute" and fall asleep together. What should I do?
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Twittermyclitter / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Usually when people do something they find satisfying, it's only natural to crave it even more. But if the need becomes overwhelming, achieving fulfillment can actually starts to block out other needs. Sexual gratification can beat out any other achievements you can get from any non-sexual intimacy. I would try getting pleasure from "non sexual activities", see if you can accomplish that first.
Also there are definitely people who have a stronger sex drive. Since in this case it's you....try asking him to satisfy you every once in a while without having an orgasm himself, and masturbation is always a good way to satisfy your needs....hope this helps :)
Sexnthecity2000 / Woman / Likes Men / Single
Let me understand this—YOU want sex and your boyfriend just wants to cuddle? Just goes to show you that you can never generalize that men always want sex and women just want affection. We all have different sex drives, and are sexually compatible with some people more than others. There is NOTHING wrong with craving sex from someone you find desirable and who you care about. However, if sex, or the need to have it, is starting to get in the way of the relationship, you need to take a step back and examine why. Is your boyfriend angry with you because he needs his sleep and you are wanting him to stay up later? Or is that he is not being understanding of your natural desires? If it is the lack of sleep that is making him cranky, maybe skip the late-night romps, and switch to morning sex. Try skipping a day of sex, letting your boyfriend get his full eight hours of shut eye. However, if he is not wanting to have sex with you at all—despite the time—it might be that you are not as sexually compatible, and you have to think about how important that is to you in a relationship
Exokisa / Woman / Likes Men / Single
I don't know...it sounds to me like you need some help if only to figure out why you need sex so much, particularly while dating. I understand you like him, but if you're keeping him up all night until he caves and gives you sex, that isn't fair to him. There is nothing wrong with doing it yourself once in a while or once a day if that'll cool you off. If he only wants to have sex once or twice a week though, you might want to consider finding someone with a higher libido.
What does sex mean to you when you're in a relationship with someone? Do you think if you have more of it that person's feelings for you will be stronger? If so, I'm sorry to tell you that isn't exactly how it works. Everyone is different. Lust and love sometimes exist separately for people. He might be getting the impression that you just want him for his body (every man's nightmare, I know).
Find other ways to express your intense like for this guy. Write poetry, kidnap him for the occasional unscheduled date or do favors for him. Or, if he really enjoys sleeping at night when he is tired, do everything in your power to allow him to have a good night's sleep.
Rage / 26 / Man / Likes Women / Single
Jackie, I have this same issue... I am constantly in a "wanting" state of mind. My urges are even worse when I'm in a relationship... I am even more driven whenever I figure out how to do it "just right" for my girl.
What I do? I find alternate release. I turn my frustration into creativity, especially when I'm single for long periods... And that happens a lot.. >.> I encourage you to look into the concept of "prana." It's an Eastern Indian concept that deals with converting energy to use in varying tasks... It may sound silly, but it would blow your mind to find out how much more productive you can be!
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