Many couples worry about their sexual relationship- are you having too little? Or maybe your worry is about spend too much time under the sheet? So many people worry that they’re not having enough sex- or that they’re having too much. Perhaps one of you is completely satisfied with your twice per week routine, while your partner is left frustrated the rest of the week. The truth is, we are all very different, and what works for one person doesn’t always work for the other – however, if you’re wondering if you are having too much sex, keep reading and we’ll help you decide.
What is “normal” for my age?
According to a study done by the Kinsey Institute, there is a yearly sex average for different age groups. So, if you are anywhere between 18 and 29 years old, you are probably having a bit of sex – somewhere around 112 times per year! And if you’re 30 to 39, the number drops to an average of 86, and again drops to 69 for the 40 to 49 crowd. So, ask yourself this: since we all probably don’t keep a daily log of our sexual activities, think back a few months. Are you having enough sex to greatly exceed the average? If you are, there isn’t anything wrong, but it could be a sign that you’re having a bit too much fun in bed.
Is sex interfering with my daily life?
This is the main question you need to ask yourself to determine how much sex is too much for you. The first clue is if you’re above average for your age group. The second clue would be to see if sex or masturbation is causing you to miss work, school, or plans with friends. If you find that it is, you absolutely may have a problem. Other behaviors that could raise a red flag in this situation could include have multiple episodes of cheating on your partner, multiple sexual partners, especially one-night stands that include unsafe sex, or even just consistent, excessive use of pornography. If these sounds like you, there are treatment programs such to help people with sexual addictions and you may want to check some out.
How common is sex addiction?
A case of sexual addiction is an extreme situation. The best way to decide how much sex is too much for you, or you and your partner, is to answer one question – are you happy? If the answer is yet, then you much be having just the right amount, and there’s nothing to worry about. But, if you are a partner are dissatisfied, talk about it- consider adding more excitement to your sex life to make up for the lack of days a week spent together, or maybe just agree to make an effort to spend more one on one time. But no matter what, remember to communicate. If this is a problem now, it is not going to go away, and if not addressed, could lead to more frustration in the future. If one of you is dissatisfied, it bears exploration, because those seeds of discontent breed trouble ahead in your relationship. The bottom line is to just pay attention to your intuition, and don’t stress about everyone else, learn to make compromises when needed, and keep in mind that as long as you’re both happy, healthy, and being safe it’s just the right amount.
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