Women are accustomed to getting attention from men regarding their physical attributes, and that’s particularly true when it comes to their breasts. Why men’s eyes seem to be drawn to a woman’s chest is unclear (Perhaps because they don’t have shapely breasts themselves?), but a recent study out of New Zealand found that fully half of men stare at – or at least surreptitiously sneak peeks – at women’s breasts upon first meeting them.
Why You Shouldn’t Stare at the Boobs
Despite the research study’s findings, it’s an unwritten rule that the majority of women find it at least somewhat discomfiting (if not outright offensive) for a man to focus on their dairy pillows during a date or in other social settings. And while you many women find the attention given to their airbags flattering, it’s still considered rude and breaks society’s rules when you can’t make eye contact because you’re too busy gazing at her grillwork.
That said, understand that sometimes women want you to look at their breasts. If a woman shows up for a first date wearing a cleavage-baring outfit, chances are she wants you to know she feels good about her breasts and is confident about exposing a bit of flesh for you to examine. Still, don’t go overboard; an appreciative glance and an enthusiastic, “You look great!” will suffice. (Note: Don’t say, “They look great!” She’ll know exactly what you mean, and it likely won’t put her at ease because you’ve just reduced the woman into a part of her whole.)
Averting the Eye
If you want to avoid offending a woman or otherwise objectifying her by noticing her knockers too much on a date, then you’re going to have to be fully aware of and conscientious about this decision. If you know you have a habit of checking out her hooters, this might mean making a conscious decision before the date to look her directly in the eyes every time you speak. You might also try finding something else about her you find attractive – perhaps a scarf or a piece of jewelry, and remind yourself to concentrate on that particular item when you’re not looking her in the eyes.
Sneaking a Peek
If you’re making a conscious effort to pay attention to the whole woman before you rather than just that extra-luscious part of her anatomy, then you can usually safely sneak peeks at her chesticles if you’re surreptitious about it rather than ogling and overt. First, keep in mind that you can’t realistically look her in the eyes during the entire conversation. This kind of long-lasting eye contact can be disconcerting and down-right creepy, so you have to look at something else occasionally. Our eyes naturally wander within a certain range when we’re seated across from the person to whom we’re speaking, so a few glances in the general direction of her jugs isn’t going to cause alarm. You might also be able to cop a little longer look when her attention is on someone else – for instance, perhaps when she’s giving her order to the server at dinner. You also increase your chances of having your gaze be less obvious if you’re seated next to one another if you’re seated at a bar, in a booth, or on a sofa.
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