The friend zone refers to the point in a friendship between a guy and girl when the guy’s feelings have turned romantic, but the girl still treats him like one of her girl friends (this can also happen vise versa but this article will cover how a man can escape the zone). When you know everything about her love life (but you’re not involved in it), she asks you to go shopping, and she tells you things like, “I can tell you anything, you’re my bestie, and you just understand me,” you’re probably entering the friend zone. If you need to know how to escape the friend zone or how to avoid it in the first place, take a look at the list below.
Don’t Be The BFF
As soon as she starts to feel so comfortable around you that she treats you like her BFF and not a potential boyfriend, you need to halt that friendship fast. If she doesn’t care what she looks like in front of you, she shares super personal information, and she dishes to you about other guys, she is thinking of you the same way that she thinks of one of her girl friends, and nothing more than that. Make it clear that you’re not interested in hearing about other guys, and definitely don't offer her advice. Don’t get too close on a friendship level too fast because then you’ll end up hearing the excuse, “I love you to death but I don’t want to risk ruining our friendship,” which is a nice way of saying, “I’m not interested in you.”
Don’t Just “Hang Out”
Friends “hang out,” couples go on dates (at least initially). One of the main reasons that men get stuck in the friend zone is because they neglect to ever ask the girl out! You always ask her to hang out but you never actually ask her to go on a date, it’s that simple. Women don’t like to play games, so clarify your intentions right from the start. The longer you wait to ask her out, the deeper you’re sinking into the friend zone. Take her out on one-on-one dates and pay for her, so she won’t think that the two of you are just hanging out as friends.
Treat Her Differently
Don’t treat her like one of your female buddies, treat her like a woman. Don’t talk to her like she’s a friend. Never be too relaxed in front of her because then she will feel like your friend. Open doors for her, pull out chairs for her, compliment her, offer her your jacket if she’s cold, don’t drool over other women in front of her, make her feel important, etc. Let your friends know that you’re interested in her because then they will treat her like she’s “your girl,” and she will notice that she has become off-limits to your crew.
Flirt
Don’t flirt with her in a goofy friendly way, but also don’t come on too strong. When the two of you are talking be sure to keep eye contact. Go out of your way to make her laugh and comment on how beautiful her eyes are. Initiate physical contact by placing your hand on her lower back when you’re talking, and stand close to her. Physical contact is an important part of creating intimacy in your relationship. When you’re departing after a date, give her a sensual kiss on the cheek just inches from her lips. If she responds well to this little kiss then go in for a real kiss next time – she will definitely get the hint that you’re not looking for her friendship.
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