Let’s be honest. Men and women are completely different. However, it seems that sex and emotions is an even larger divider of the two species. For women, sex and emotion are definitely intertwined. Although for men, these can be two distinctly different roles. So, how do the two of you come together to be able to balance your sex life and emotional needs? Here are a few tips that may help make this a little easier.
Emotion and sex advice for men
Guys, because most women equate sex and emotions as in the same ballpark, you refusal to discuss your emotions with her can be misleading and confusing. Sometimes the easiest way to avoid this is to talk to her. That doesn’t mean that you have to immediately talk about how you feel, but throw her a bone. Tell her how your day went and how that made you feel. This simple act can give her the feeling of importance without you having to divulge any deep feelings. You might be surprised to know that women are much more like you when it comes to the “L” word. It never counts during sex, so unless you stop thrusting, look her in the eyes, and then say it. She is going to take it the same way you would. So, if you must, say it during foreplay, with your clothes on. You might be surprised the sexual encounter that follows, specifically her new found intensity for you.
Emotion and sex advice for women
Girls, we often project our emotions into sex. Men do NOT do this. In order to have an emotional relationship with a man, you must wait. This kind of relationship must be his decision, not yours and there is absolutely nothing you can do to force this. However, he may occasionally slip you little signs that he has decided your relationship does involve emotion. Tell you how he feels about certain things and even you should be encouraged, but you should do this by listening to him, NOT talking. For those of you who are confused by this, when a man tells you he loves you during sex, what he really means is that he loves having sex with you. This isn’t the same as “I love you,” but it’s not necessarily a bad thing either. You should take this as a complement, as men will continue to come back to what they love to do.
General emotion advice for relationships
Finally, the easiest way to avoid hurt feelings and any confusion is to talk to your partner. Communication is a key aspect to any successful relationship. Remember that although you may have to work at the emotional relationship, it will be worth it, as the sexual rewards will be great. With this do not be afraid to tell you partner what you want from the emotional relationship as well as the sexual one. Compromise is also vital. Every aspect of your relationship should be a partnership. This may mean sharing your feelings with your partner from time to time.
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