You realize that she's a good catch, everyone likes her, she's attentive, and she actually likes you for who you are – but you're just not into her anymore. No matter how much you want to get out of the relationship, it is difficult to break up with her. If you want to get rid of your girlfriend but cause her as little pain as possible, follow these guidelines.
Prepare Yourself
You meet up with your girlfriend and you're good and ready to break up with her... But then the waterworks begins. She will cry and she will try to convince you that you can both work on fixing the relationship, but if you have made the decision to break up with her then you obviously have your reasons. Don't let her talk you out of it. Write a list of your reasons for wanting to break up and just keep it somewhere personal, and then remember your reasons when she tries to convince you otherwise. You must prepare yourself to stand your ground no matter what she says.
Meet Her In Person
There is more than one reason why you need to break up with her face-to-face. First of all, it is the right way to do it – no one wants to be dumped over the phone. You don't want to make her feel like she isn't important enough to dump in person. Also, she might get the idea in her head that if you see her then you will change your mind. She might think that if you look her in the eyes then you will fall in love again and that will give her the glimmer of hope that you might get back together.
Don't Ignore Her & Make Excuses
If you are trying to break up with your girlfriend but you don't have the guts to just tell her, just ignoring her will not do the trick. She will convince herself that you're not getting her messages or her calls, and she will think that you still want her. Even if you tell her that you're busy every single time she asks you to hang out, she will try to convince herself that you're really just busy – these excuses are not a smart way to dump your girlfriend.
Be Nice But Clear
Women have delicate feelings and you don't want to hurt her. Therefore, you don't want to say something mean like, "I'm not attracted to you after you gained 15 lbs.," or "I found someone else that I like much better." Tell her that the relationship is just not working out for you anymore and you want to be single. She will most likely ask you why, so prepare an explanation ahead of time. Make sure to point out that the time you have had together has been wonderful and you will treasure it forever, but you just don't see the relationship going any further. While you want to spare her feelings, you don't want to give her false hope. Don't say, "Maybe we will be together in the future," because that will make her think that you are not serious about the breakup. Not to mention, you don't want her to wait for you to come back. Make sure that she is aware that you guys are through.
Don't Contact Her
Once you have broken up with her, do not contact her asking what she's up to. You both need time to move on and if you attempt to be her friend right after the breakup she is going to think that you still have feelings for her. Don't drunk-dial her and don't ask her if she is dating other people. You are the one that wanted to break up with her, so don't put her through the agony of not knowing what you really want.
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