Chances are your lady isn’t cutting you off from the bedroom gymnastics because she wants to. But menopause, as you have likely already learned, is an emotional and physical roller coaster for her; as such, she will probably experience some anxiety and may be timid. You therefore need to show her you are still hot for her and that you want her now more than ever. These tips can help you communicate your continued attraction.
Flirt with her
Show her there is no other woman for you. Let her know she still turns your head when she walks in the room, and become the gentleman you were when you first started dating. Ask her out on a date, treat her like a real lady, and show her you are patient and understanding without doting on or patronizingly fawning over her.
Use foreplay
This is the logical next step to employ. Her body has changed, as has her emotional state of mind. It’s time to reacquaint yourself with your lovely lady, and her with you. Your touch is not going to feel the same as it did before, so kiss her from head to toe, use your fingertips to run over her body, and play close attention to her reactions. Get to know her, as her changing body is the roadmap to eroticism for the both of you.
Use different tools and foods
Break out the whipped cream, strawberries, and anything else you think might intensify the senses. Have fun with this, experiment together, and go at her pace. Do not expect sex the first time around, as this approach will likely take her some time to adjust to if you’re just now introducing it into your lovemaking. Instead, let her initiate contact and put her hands over yours; let her be your guide to her body.
Make romantic overtures
Take your lady shopping for intimates, draw her a bath, and show her you love her and want her. Moreover, verbally express your sexual interest in her, and take time out of the middle of the day or other unexpected times to pleasure her without penetration or pressure.
Plan a weekend getaway
Arrange for just the two of you to skip town for a little romance when you know she is feeling attractive. Plan the entire thing yourself and leave nothing for her to stress or worry over, including events and responsibilities at home: make sure the calendar is clear, her bags are packed, the meals are planned, and the kids taken care of. Tell her you want to get to know her again. Make the entire trip about her. Send her out before you leave for a day at the spa or salon, provide for a shopping spree, or otherwise spoil her so she knows how beautiful and desirable you think she is.
Final thoughts on sex during menopause
Your significant other’s menopause will be a time or reinvention for her as well as for your relationship, so take this time to be the partner you always promised to be and knew deep down you could be. Understand that this will take time, patience, and love from you. Your lover is likely worried and timid, although she loves and wants to please you. Menopause isn’t about not wanting to have sex; rather, your female companion is more worried about how this change affects her life, your relationship, and her outward beauty.
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