Many people enjoy both giving and receiving rim jobs, and it’s likely that even more are curious about or interested in this variety of sex play. However, most anything involving anal stimulation remains relatively taboo in modern society, likely because we associate the anus with things that are foul or malodorous from early childhood on. Yet the fact that anal stimulation can be extremely pleasurable for both men and women makes the rim job an attractive and erotic prospect to many people. However, convincing your partner that you would like for him or her to perform a rim job on you might take some effort on your part.
Health and Hygiene Considerations
The first objection most people have to performing a rim job is the fear that it can be unhygienic and therefore result in disease. While this argument has merit, there are measures you can take to make a rim job as safe as possible. Discuss with your partner the fact that a thorough cleaning of the area with antibacterial soap and warm water will eliminate fecal matter, which is what is responsible for diseases that can be contracted through a rim job. You might also suggest using a dental dam over the anus, which will further reduce the chances of contracting a disease or incurring other health problems.
Relatedly, many people who are inexperienced at giving rim jobs are reluctant to do so because they’re afraid of the taste. Again, you can reassure your partner that good hygiene, copious amounts of soap and water, and perhaps the use of a dental dam will make this concern virtually disappear. Most people who are experienced with performing rim jobs report that a thoroughly cleaned anus does not smell or taste like fecal matter, but rather has a mildly earthy flavor and odor that is not offensive.
You might also want to consider encouraging your partner to research rim jobs to gain a better understanding of rim jobs and reassure him/herself about the possible health risks and how they can be avoided, which can alleviate concerns about odors, tastes, and sanitary issues.
Lack of Knowledge Considerations
The other major concern people have about giving a rim job is that they may not understand why you want one. This, however, can be easily addressed if you and your partner have an open and honest relationship with one another and are not shy about discussing the most intimate parts of your sex life. If your partner is not familiar with or experienced in anal play, he or she may not understand what the erotic draw of a rim job is. Treat this as an opportunity to share with your partner the things you find arousing, including the fact that your anus is a particularly erogenous zone. If your partner is particularly modest or inexperienced, you might want to have some literature on hand or some websites bookmarked to back you up on this fact.
Lack of Experience Considerations
Finally, you might find that your partner is uncomfortable with the idea of giving a rim job because he or she has never done so before. If this is the case, reassure your partner that just like every other kind of erotic adventure, there’s a first time for everything and you therefore don’t expect him or her to be an expert the first time. You might also watch erotic videos together that feature rim jobs so your partner can become more familiar with various techniques.