What is it that makes law enforcement officials such enduring fantasy figures? Is it the sustaining popularity of a person in uniform? The aura of authority an officer exudes? The heady idea that a police person might be packing in more way than one? Regardless of what the X factor is, there is no denying that patrolmen and women are popular fantasy magnets.But forget fantasy for a moment. What about the reality of dating a cop? While deputies are undeniably desirable in the dating world, there are a few things you should keep in mind if you want to be more than friends with a member of the FOP.
Analyze why you like cops
First you need to ask yourself why you favor flatfoots. Whether you have a long-standing attraction to law enforcers or this is the first time you’ve find yourself ogling an officer, you need to examine your intentions and make sure they’re sincere. Keep in mind that police are trained to be suspicious. Identifying people’s motives is a big part of their job, so they will likely know if your interest isn’t on the up-and-up.
Don’t think you’ll get away with stuff now
One thing that police people are sure to pick up on is if you’re trying to snag one to save yourself, whether you’re hoping for help with parking tickets or thinking that dating an officer of the law will give you an ironclad alibi for your illicit activities. Like most people, cops want to date someone because they are interested in the other person, not because they’re eager to help that person out with his or her legal woes. Similarly, you shouldn’t take advantage of the law enforcement official’s general nature. Cops are trained to serve and protect, and their primary job is to provide safety and security. Still, using a person with a gun and a badge to intimidate an ex or a friend with whom you’re not on good terms will get you booted to the curb quickly.
Think about the cop reputation
If you’re gunning for a guy or gal in blue, you should consider your past as well as your intentions and motive. It’s important to remember that officers are highly visible members of the community whose behavior must be above reproach, so it’s a given that they’re going to be judged by the company they keep. Remember that what you do reflects on those with whom you associate, so your lifestyle and actions should never jeopardize the job or call into question the standing in the community of the police person you date. In short, think before you act. The last thing you want is to find yourself asking, “Officer, did I do something wrong?”
Help them with their stress level
You should also keep in mind that those in law enforcement have highly stressful jobs. Their lives are on the line every day in the pursuit of safety, and that kind of constant stress can get to a person. It’s difficult for those not in the field to understand the kind of pressure that LEOs are under, and it’s not uncommon for cops to keep that stress private or share it only with other members of the law enforcement community. You shouldn’t take offense to this. Instead, try to understand that there’s a certain camaraderie among cops and that you’re unlikely to be able to cross the thin blue line. Keeping the conflict in your relationship to a minimum could be your ticket to paradise.If you’re sure you’re ready for a relationship with a police officer, then put out a BOLO for your cop companion. At the very least, you won’t have to spend any money on handcuffs.
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My girlfriend is a cop. We are lesbians. And it is stressful. I ride wih her all the time to get a feel of the stress level and everything. And trust me. It's stressful.!!!! We will be getting married in a yr. Yes ppl look at u diff. But I. No way do we get treated diff. Which someimes n the dep. She does. But because she is a female. I have a scanner at home so ICAN listen to everything. It's scary to not know if she is comin home. But one thing. Do not n ne way take advantage of it! I believe if I do something wron. Give me a ticket! I would never put her job on the line! Ever. But enjoy every day u have with the :) I sure do
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