A dominatrix is a woman who plays the dominant role in a sexual encounter and in a relationship. Most people think that the role of a dominatrix has only to do with sex and bondage but it stems much further from that. It merges into taking control of everything in a relationship. Female dominance is the key element, along with “dominance and submission”, and power exchange. The female generally leads all of the dynamics within a relationship and is often referred to as “mistress.” Typically, the encounter is made up of sexual activities that are basically forced on a man or woman. The goal of this act is to extort pleasure from the obedience of the partner – kind of like a little plaything. Levels of intensity range depending on the scenarios. Lighter domination may include teasing, spanking and other types of foreplay. More intense female domination scenarios can involve doing things that provide the dominatrix more pleasure. On some occasions, violence may even be incorporated.
What does that all mean?
In a different and calmer sense female domination and male submission (the most common) is primarily made up of the woman taking control of the pleasure (ex. having sexual intercourse with the woman on top) which is the most basic form. It would be considered more intense if sadomasochistic activities and bondage were a factor as well.
Figuring out if a dominatrix is right for you
Some men are really into the idea of being control by a dominatrix and the majority of the time it is a big-time fetish case. Deciding whether or not a dominatrix is a kind of girl that you could either one, mess around with or two, be in a relationship with, depends on a number of things. For the most part, it has to do with the level of intensity and if you can be put into submission. Many men are not able to be seriously told what to do by a woman during a sexual act, let alone controlled throughout a long-term relationship. If one can abide by the behaviors, rituals and customs that involve the male being dominated by a female in both an erotic event and in a lifestyle arrangement, then it can be done.
What if you want to dominate?
In some relationships, dominance and submission is not a constant thing and roles are switched periodically. Some relationships are portrayed as the ‘ideal’ marriage where one player is service-oriented while the other is the provider. People often assume the male to be this provider which is the whole point of male submission in an episode of female dominance. You can make your choice as to which way you want to go.
Switching between dominator and dominated
If you want to switch roles a lot, you can. The type of relationship that would probably work best would be the one where the male and female take turns being the leading and more powerful figure. Role play and power exchange come into play and both are given the opportunity to have the dominance. Learning to deal with a supposed gender and role swap is the biggest step in learning to be submissive. You can explore both personalities to find out which works best for you.If one were to choose this route, he or she would have to develop the ability to fall into different states of being without it turning into something it is not meant to be. One must learn to be both over-powering and demanding but also must know the role of the submissive “toy,” if you will.
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