Becoming romantically involved with a drug addict is probably not something anyone plans on doing, but many are faced with it nonetheless. Never mind why you have found yourself in this situation. The fact is, you are in love, and at least to some extent, are sharing your life with someone unable to control the use of a mind-altering substance. It is important to realize that an addicted partner will place the addiction before everything, including your relationship. You must also realize that you cannot force an addict to seek treatment until he has come to the realization that he needs to make a change on his own. With that in mind, being in a relationship with an addict involves a great deal of strength and self-preservation.Once you have made the decision to remain in the relationship, here are some things you can do to protect your own well-being while also doing what is best for your partner:
Learning not to be in control
First, do not attempt to control the addict. Only he can be responsible for his actions and consequences. Do not blame yourself for the things he does. By the same token, resist the urge to make his life easier. By helping him cover for his actions, you are only supporting him in the belief that he can carry on in this way indefinitely.
Watching where your money goes
It is also important that you protect your finances. Keep your money in separate accounts, keep passwords and PINs secure, and do your best to keep your partner from having easy access to valuables. Even if you feel your significant other is normally trustworthy, the addiction may cause him to steal and engage in other criminal activities.
Keeping yourself safe from the addict
Do not let yourself be abused by the addict, either physically or mentally. Realize that you are not at fault for any of the circumstances leading to the addiction, and that the addict is coming from a place of great personal pain. He may very well lash out, no matter how much he cares about you, and might seek to blame someone else for his problems. Do whatever is necessary to protect yourself. You are not improving the situation in any way by allowing yourself to be a punching bag.
Living in the real world
Try means you find activities and friendships that allow you to enjoy yourself, and get a break from the stresses and pressures of the relationship. A good place to look for new friendships is in support groups like Al Anon, where you are likely to find those who are dealing with the same problems you are, and are also seeking a positive outcome.
Watching your health
Lastly, pay attention to your physical health. Regular exercise and a healthy diet can help alleviate stress, built strength, and improve your overall well-being. Psychological pressures are more easily dealt with if you are physically strong.Being romantically involved with a drug addict is never easy. But with a realistic view of the situation, and a commitment to protect and take care of yourself, your relationship has at least a fighting chance at survival.
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