The “older” reputation of a gigolo used to be that they were simply, young “professional male escorts” for high-class “older” women. However, nowadays, a gigolo has a slightly different meaning. It usually entails anything from a male “gold digger” to a “trophy husband.” Regardless of the situation, dating a gigolo can pose a difficult problem without the appropriate tools to taming this particular beast. So, here are a few tips to help alleviate some of the potential problems that may arise.Lay down the ground rules As the “Golden Rule” states, the one with the gold makes the rules. This a particularly true in this case. Make sure that both of your understand what in expected from him. Although you may feel this to be more like a business arrangement at first (as that is basically what it is), as with any other relationship the emotions will come with time. You should probably also make him aware of the fact that if YOU are on his arm, no one else should be.Explain the perksAs your “boy toy” , he should also be made aware of the advantages to his loyalty. This may include anything from an extensive wardrobe to luxurious vacations. Whatever the arrangement, this should be discussed up front. Understand that having him is also a perk to you, so his benefits should be equal to yours. Understand each others availability Whether it is sexual or social, your availability supercedes his. He should be available to you for crises, social events, or whatever event you deem necessary. This should be understood between both of you. Again, this goes back to the “Golden Rule”. He should also be made aware of what is expected of him at any particular event. This could help to eliminate a lot of confusion later.Discussing the financesAlthough there are certain aspects of your life, that are none of his business, there are also certain things that he will need to know. In addition to providing the majority of his needs, you will also need to decide upon an “allowance” for him. This will be the fee for any incidental items he may need aside from what you provide. The two of you should sit down and discuss what is reasonable for both parties. This should also probably be done before any emotional bond is formed.Let him know about your lifeAlthough he will learn most of the things he will need to know over time, at least for appearances, you may want to give him an overview of your life thus far. Keeping in mind that he may not learn it all overnight, but no other partner would either. In public, he should be attentive and loving. In private, he should be whatever you are looking for. His ultimate goal as your gigolo should ultimately be your happiness. Also, understand that with any relationship, the longer it goes, the more emotional attachment the two of you will form. This may make any “break ups” harder to deal with as well. Just remember that you are the boss.
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