Married dates can be both risky and high maintenance. If you are not prepared for the pitfalls of dating a married woman, better to stop before it begins rather than get caught in a grisly situation later. Married women should really be off limits but human nature being what it is, often a man might find himself cruising into a dating relationship with a woman who is married and be unsure how to tackle the etiquette that such situations demand. Applying the word etiquette to a date with a married woman might seem inappropriate but none the less there are certain guidelines that can be followed to make the experience more enjoyable and less fraught with unexpected surprises.
Be considerate of her commitments
If the lady is not only married but also has children, there might be unavoidable circumstances that prompt her to return home with some urgency. At those times, there is no point trying to persuade her to stay because she will not and may even resent your trying to convince her that you are more important than her family commitments.
Avoid holiday dates
Resign yourself to casual dating that does not include traditional holiday celebrations such as New Years Eve; Christmas; her Birthday; Valentines Day etc. All those days will be earmarked to be spent with family and family friends. You will be sidelined on those occasions so if you do not think you can tolerate that; best not start the romance in the first place.
Where to take the woman
Be careful about where you take your married date. Ask her about areas she thinks might be a ‘no-go’ venue for dates. Clear with her first before making reservations and paying deposits on hotels and restaurants, as she may have a viable objection to going to certain places if she knows people there or she went there with her husband on their last anniversary and so on…
Use your time wisely
Be ready to take advantage of a window in her schedule to enjoy a short meeting or rendezvous. She may have to make huge amendments to her timetable to fit in a short date with you, whereas you are a free agent and able to accommodate short notice more easily.
The right gifts for the relationship
Do not buy her gifts that she cannot explain to her husband. Clothing and underwear is probably quite safe but jewels are not so easily accounted for as women seldom buy jewelry for themselves. Never engrave something, for obvious reasons. A silver key ring or a pen can go unnoticed and save her the further deceit of telling her husband more lies.
The end of a date
Remember that when the date is over, you are off limits with regard to cozy chats on the cell or speculative visits. She has a family life that cannot be set aside for you and your calls may even cause her problems with her husband who presumably is unaware of your romance with his wife.
Understand a married woman’s emotions
Do not tamper with the affections of a married woman. Often women who launch into an affair are unhappy to begin with and further heartache can be hard to take. Respect her emotions and try to be her daily dose of happiness.
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