So often when we think of scientists our minds conjure up images of a frazzled Einstein with his crazy hair sticking up everywhere or of a pocket protector-wearing nerd in a lab coat clutching a clipboard and writing down everything for “research purposes.” But science is such an important part of modern life that this stereotype no longer applies near to the extent that it once did. Additionally, because they usually make good money and have reliable jobs scientists are often good dating prospects for people who count financial stability among their requirements for romantic relationships. If you’re looking to date a scientist, here are a few tips to help you establish chemistry with your prospective paramour.
Understand a scientist’s job
Although not all scientists work in a lab, many are involved in some way with either research or development of some nature. These fields are usually highly competitive, and often scientists are under enormous pressure to complete projects quickly so they can submit or publish their findings before other people working on similar endeavors beat them to the punch. This high degree of competition can create a very stressful environment in which the pressure is always on to the first and fastest, and often it means they spend long hours in the office or the lab. You’ll have to be able to understand that finding a cure for cancer or inventing the next technological advancement in computer chips will sometimes take precedence over more mundane pursuits like going dancing or catching the latest romantic comedy at the theater. After all, it’s all in the name of science, and your sweetie’s work could make a difference that will impact the entire world.
How scientists handle relationship problems
Keep in mind also that because of the nature of their work and their training, scientists are very often more analytical thinkers than they are intuitive. Because of this, they tend to deal in facts and quantifiable data rather than gut reactions or what “feels right.” This can mean a couple of things for romantic relationships. One is that scientists tend to approach problems from a logical perspective rather than an emotional one, and this can sometimes be seen in how they approach matters of the heart as well. Remember that this is not necessarily because your scientist sweetie is cold or unfeeling, but rather that he or she is just “wired” differently in how he or she approaches problems and challenges.
Realize that you need to be straightforward
This preference for the analytical rather than the emotional can also mean that scientists sometimes don’t “read between the lines” as well because they’re accustomed to working with straightforward scientific principles and data rather than the nuances of human emotion. If you encounter this in your relationship, try to approach issues with this knowledge in mind and establish that you’ll try to work more with the facts of the matter if he or she will meet you half way and try to work more with the unquantifiable but still existent factors at work in the relationship.
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