When we think of swinging we often tend to think of couples becoming involved with other couples in sexual relationships of varying degrees. However, single people do participate in the swinging lifestyle, so it is not unheard of for a person to learn that the partner he or she is dating is a member of the swinging community. If you find yourself in this situation and plan to continue the relationship, there are some specific things you should know – especially if you plan to join your partner in this lifestyle.
Know about his swinging lifestyle
Because people who swing tend to keep this part of their life relatively private, if your partner shared that information with you he or she almost certainly will feel comfortable discussing it with you and answering your questions. Nevertheless, it is a good idea to educate yourself about the lifestyle independently. There are many excellent resources on the topic available online, just as there are newspapers, magazines and other publications that target this specific demographic.During your research you will likely learn that the “Golden Rule” of swinging is rooted in the understanding that any person participating can say no to anyone, at anytime, and anywhere. If you are curious about this lifestyle and decide to give it a shot but then get the proverbial cold feet when the moment actually arrives, you should feel no pressure to continue.
Avoid jealousy in the relationship
One of the common complications of pursuing a swinging lifestyle with the person you’re dating is dealing with jealousy, whether you choose to participate or not. Communication is a very important component of any relationship, but that’s especially true for people who are in romantic relationships with swingers.
Stay protected with the swinger
Further, it’s very important to protect yourself physically as well as emotionally when dating a swinger. Since swinging means having multiple sexual partners, both you and the person you’re dating need to be decidedly diligent about practicing safe sex. Most swing clubs have strict hygiene and safety protocols, but it is still in your best interest to be very proactive and cautious about this issue. Relatedly, be aware that most swinger clubs also either limit alcohol and drugs to social use in a swing setting or prohibit them outright so that participants are able to make clear headed and conscientious decisions at all times.
Get into swinging yourself
If, however, you are interested in swinging and are actively seeking a relationship with another swinger, the previous considerations as well as others are necessary. For instance, you will probably want to establish firm ground rules from the outset to protect yourself and your partner; after all, just because you’re swingers doesn’t mean you can’t get hurt emotionally or that you’re interested in the same kind of swinger action. You will have to decide if you want to seek other partners together, separately, or both. Relationships of this kind can become especially contentious if one person involved decides he or she no longer wants to swing and prefers instead to pursue a monogamous relationship with his or her partner.
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