So you have found the ultimate woman. She is gorgeous, strong and way out of your league, which makes her all the more alluring. Think you’re ready for the challenge of dating the Alpha female? Well, here are a few tips that just make her chase you.
Know that basic tactics won’t win an alpha female’s heart
First, since she will most likely have men falling all over her, she will seem completely unimpressed by any ordinary romantic gesture. So the usual flowers and chocolate will not work. To stand out to this woman, you’ll need to be imaginative. For example, find out if she likes sports or who her favorite band is and get her tickets. She will most definitely expect the full “princess” treatment so you may as well get use to that.
Understand the dating regulations
Second, if she is dating other men, this gives you permission to date other women. However, do not use these other women for your own personal advancement with your alpha female. She is not using the other men to make you jealous; she is enjoying their company. However, you should definitely play the game she is playing. When you become or appear genuinely interested in someone else and not her, she will not be able to stand this. You will again have her undivided attention.
Make her come to you
These women pride themselves on the ability to stay “unreachable”. You must make her want to reach you. If you should call and asks you to call her back, this is a game. Do not call her. Force her to want to come to you. When she calls you back (and she will), be unavailable. Call her only at times that are convenient for you. This is all in an effort switch her schedule to yours. You should be careful with this though. Going too far the other way, too fast, can be equally as detrimental. Remember, her attention span isn’t that long. Luckily for you, her frustration with not being your priority will outweigh her attention span.
Don’t always let her be in control
Next, she can be controlling and demanding. She is used to men following her around like a “lost puppy” and jumping at her every whim. She will expect the same from you. There is nothing wrong with helping her out on occasion. However, you don’t want to join the litter of puppies she already has. You will maintain your dignity and she will earn respect for you, if you don’t ask her ‘how high?’ every time she yells jump.
Deal with her alpha attitude
Finally, she can have a little bit of an attitude problem. While some men find her sarcasm endearing, if you aren’t enjoying her witty (and sometimes condescending) banter, you should probably move on. The alpha female is not like other woman. She truly believes that she is in control of most every situation and everyone in it. This may include you. If you are not up for this kind of relationship, write her name down on the ‘Do Not Date’ list and move on to a person more amenable to your particular taste. You will be better off this way.
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