The thought of opposites attract seems appealing, but the fact is that dating your opposite is hard stuff. From a matter of personal experience, I can attest to the fact that my husband and I come from two completely different planets. He’s calm, wise, observant and passionate about everything. I’m spunky, smart but soooo not wise, oblivious and lazy at times. Nevertheless, we work, and we work well! So, how do we do it? Find out below…
Feed off the opposition
There is a lot to be gained from dating your opposite because they possess the qualities that you lack. We all love to try something new, and there is no better way to do it than to try to be like your partner. See things from their side. Try to like what they like, even if you don’t. Take this as a chance to expand your horizons. It’s so easy to bond when you’re learning a new trait. One person becomes the teacher and one the student. As long as both people are willing, you have the makings for a great relationship.
Learn to compromise
This part sucks but it has to happen. You can’t expect compromise to be a one way event. It’s far from that. And what’s worse is that in an opposite style relationship, that’s all you do is compromise, all the time. You might think it isn’t worth it then, but if you love someone, you have to put forth the effort to keep them. Otherwise you’re roommates, not lovers. Learn to give a little and take a little with a good balance for each.
See what you do have in common
Even in the midst of being total opposites, there has to be something that you guys have in common. In my marriage, it was the love of poker and now the love of working online. You have to be able to see those commonalities and hold onto them. Those will be the glue that ties everything together. By sharing in just a few traits, you can vastly improve the way you interact.
Don’t let your fights blow up
Fights with your opposite can blow up very quickly. Both parties get stubborn and emotional, then BOOM! Total chaos. You can’t let fights boil out of control. Maintain your own temper. Don’t worry about the other person’s. Just focus on keeping your cool so that you don’t say or do something that you will regret. If you need to step away to clear your head, do so. Then come back in and hash things out logically.
Final thoughts on opposites attracting
Overall, I would never give up my little opposite. He’s everything that I am not, and I don’t feel whole without him. That’s the reason why we work, and if you see the same in your relationship, you could work too. It’s really easy to love someone when you realize how much they complete you. Never lose sight of that, not even for a second.
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