Worldwide, the economy is in bad shape. A lot of people who thought they had life-long job security have been laid off, many of them permanently and many young people just finishing their education are having a hard time finding any kind of permanent employment. So, if you are dating, it is quite possible that you will meet at least one person you like very much, but who does not have a job.Unemployed does not mean un-dateable. A lot of people would say you have no business starting a new relationship if you’re having trouble paying the bills, but realistically, men and women have been getting together for thousands of years, during some of the worst times in history. Money comes and goes, but love will always be part of life. Here are some tips to help you date an unemployed person:
Understanding why he or she is unemployed
While there is absolutely nothing wrong with preferring a gainfully employed partner, the reality is that many successful, hardworking people can lose their jobs through no fault of their own. Current career prospects may not be an accurate reflection of a person’s real value. If you find someone you like, and he just happens to be between jobs, keep in mind that this is probably just a temporary situation, and that things will get better.
Being supportive of the person
You can do a lot to make the situation better just by being supportive. Don’t complain if money is tight, or if it’s taking a while to find a new job. Even a dedicated job-seeker might need months to find a new position, especially if it’s in a relatively high-paying field. You can do your part to help by keeping your ears open for opportunities, and doing your part to help network. Most jobs are found through people the job-seeker already knows.
Having fun on your dates
Having some fun with dating can be an excellent diversion from the stress of unemployment. Dating can be expensive, but it doesn’t have to be. There are a lot of things you can do that cost little or nothing. Go for walks in the park, and check out free events in your community. Especially during the summer, many towns offer free concerts and all kinds of festivals. Rather than buying food at concessions at these events, pack a picnic lunch. Adding a pretty tablecloth and a bottle of wine can make it a romantic event.One should never underestimate the fun of staying in. A home-cooked meal is always a good way to express your affection. Movie rentals are cheap, and so are board games. Sex is free, and always fun. Use your imagination, and you may never leave the house again!
Final thoughts…
Dating someone who is unemployed may not be ideal, but it isn’t the worst thing either. In fact, you may find someone who is not pre-occupied with a stressful career a lot of fun to be around, and the more flexible schedule is always a bonus. Besides, if you can stick together while times are tough, you stand a good chance of making it down the road, when things get back to normal.
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