You’ve found just the person you’d love to date. She is perfect for you. But even better, the object of your affection has a twin. You’ve already decided that you can’t decide which one you like better, so you’ll go for both. Surely this belongs in the realm of fantasy. It’s not an easy thing to pull off, but it can be done.
Dating them individually
Before becoming too concerned with juggling two romantic interests at once, you will need to focus on winning over one twin at a time. At this stage, it is very important that neither one be aware that you are interested in the other. This will take planning and discretion, since you will need to find opportunities to get one twin alone long enough to win her over. Since twins, especially identical ones, are often tired of not being perceived as individuals, you can win a lot of points by de-emphasizing her twin status, and focusing on her unique qualities. During this phase, it is especially critical that you not make mistakes. Be sure to keep very careful track of the things you talk about, and which twin tells you what. If one divulges some rather personal family information for instance, you want to be especially sure that you don’t let it slip out in interactions with the other.
Deceiving both of the twins
If you play your cards right, you will eventually be dating both twins. For at least a time, make each of them believe they are your only romantic interest. Do not reveal that you are dating their twin until you are absolutely certain that both are in love with you. To a certain extent, you will have to use your instincts to determine the right time to reveal the truth.
Explaining your situation to them
Once you are ready to make your move, schedule some time alone with each twin. Choose a quiet, romantic location. Make her feel comfortable, and certain that you care about her. Once the mood is set, explain that you have very strong feelings for her, but that you find yourself in a crazy situation. Somehow, you have managed to fall in love with her twin as well. At this point, be prepared for her to be upset. However, there are a few things you can do to keep from making it worse.
Making your intentions known
First of all, make it very clear that you are not looking for a Hugh Hefner-esque threesome. If your twins are at all attractive, they will be sick and tired of men giving voice to that particular fantasy. Secondly, make it clear that this was completely unplanned. As much as possible, present yourself as blindsided by your attraction to two attractive and amazing people.
Pointing out the positives of the relationships
Next, be sure to point out some of the positive aspects of twins falling for the same person. Chances are, they enjoy spending time together; now they can enjoy each other’s company while also enjoying yours. Since they are probably accustomed to doing things together, it will be easy to include you in activities in which they already participate.
Re-emphasizing your stance with the twins
Throughout all of this, continue to make it very clear that none of this was calculated or planned. Be sensitive to any feelings of betrayal or jealousy, and be patient, realizing that it will take some time for both twins to become accustomed to the idea. It will not be easy to accomplish, but if you are successful, your own sex will envy you, and the opposite will be fascinated.
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