Why does love seem to thrive in the workplace? Let’s admit it: Anything that is forbidden is most tempting. The more dangerous the situation is, the better. Ideally mixing business with pleasure is a no-no in business, because of the risk of jeopardizing sound judgment, especially if the romantic attachment is with the decision-maker. It can open doors to abuses of power; from accommodation to corruption in exchange for sexual favors. In short it could do a lot of mess in the business and even to the jobs of the persons involved. But bosses and workers are just human beings, who just don’t work for the money. A workplace is a social space where human relationship are formed, including romantic relationships. Nothing is impossible in a workplace where people spend at least eight hours a day, five to six times a week together. Experts even say that relationships like these can not be avoided. Fine. If you can’t resist it, follow your heart. Go! But before the staunch supporters of “no office relationships allowed” policy would panic, here are few tips to be a responsible date to your boss:
Talking about your feelings
Express your feelings and care for the person with open eyes and mind. If you really care for the person, you would always want the best for him. Do not restrict him or her from being a good boss. Always be reminded of his stature as well as his or her responsibilities at work. Messing things up could ruin both of your or, worst, just you.
Not asking for favors at work
Keep your advantage over the others at a very low level to avoid being accused of being a user. Avoid asking or receiving special favors related to work. Always be conscious of others’ feelings and insecurities, especially if they know that you are keeping a relationship with the boss, as this could harm the business.
When to date
Keep your dates outside office hours. Resist the temptation of flirting with the boss while he or she works on the documents you brought in for his perusal. Keep business strictly business, or better, at low key. There is plenty of time outside the office to play.
Separation of office and relationship
Make a conscious effort to separate office from personal issues. There are times that you and your boss run in conflict with ideas, deadlines, quality of work, so on and so forth. Again if you are determined to continue dating him or her you should keep business strictly business. This is a tough test of your maturity or the least the level of your relationship with him or her. Many office relationships explode due to the pressures at work. This would could destroy both, emotionally or career wise.
Staying in communication
Always keep communication lines open. If you’ve decided to walk the tight rope, always be cautious. Make sure that you don’t make a wrong move, or else you fall into the ravine. Listen to him or her. Know his or her expectations. Tell him or her yours, as well. Dating your boss may be a risky business but, taking it one step at a time could actually be a nurturing and exciting experience - just like any other relationship.
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