Jealousy and relationships tend to go hand in hand. There is always one partner that just can’t get over that envious feeling that harbors inside themselves. The jealousy can spawn from a variety of feelings, but nevertheless it can lead to fights that get way overblown. Dealing with a jealous partner is never easy, but it is doable. Here are some tips that may help you along the way.
Figure out what the person is jealous of
There are a lot of different forms of jealousy, and even though they all come with the same basic cure, you still need to know what you’re dealing with. Your partner may be jealous of other people of their sex, meaning that your boyfriend may get jealous of other guys that are around you. The partner may also be jealous of the things that take time away from your relationship, like work or spending time with your friends. Furthermore, your partner may be jealous of a status that you have over them, like if you make better money or live in a nicer place. If you can figure out where this jealousy comes from, you’ll be better prepared to move onto the next step.
Dealing with the reasons for jealousy
For the most part, any jealous feeling is going to be spawned from insecurity. Your partner has an issue with something because they feel like they are not adequate enough for you. To combat this, you have to make sure that those insecurities go away. This can be done by reassuring the person that he or she is great, that you love him or her, that you only want to be with him or her, etc. Give your partner the attention he or she is asking for. Don’t drop your entire life to do this, but don’t forget about your partner either. Maintain a balance that still has your partner’s emotions in regard.
Avoid certain conversations
There is no need to talk about the things that make your partner jealous unless they are brought up. This doesn’t mean that you can lie to the person, but you don’t have to go talking about how Bobby, your hot coworker, told you this super funny joke today. Keep things on a need to know basis. The less time you spend talking about things, the less time your partner will think about them. This will lessen the jealousy.
Decide if it’s too much
If you’ve tried all that you can to make your partner feel special, loved, and admired, you need to figure out if the jealousy is just too much. If you let things go on for too long, you may be forced to alter your life in ways that you never wanted to. That may include dumping friends, quitting a job, or not participating in a certain activity that you love. Change is good, but only if the change is going to better both parties of the relationship. If you’re partner is asking for too much, get out while you can.
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