Finding out about an unplanned pregnancy can be a disheartening experience at best. For the guy in the situation there is the question of wanting to be a part of the child’s life or even if it is, in fact, his baby. If you are the woman in this case there are several factors playing a role in dealing with this situation. Are you at the right age to deal with bringing another life into this world? Do you have the emotional maturity irrespective of your age? Are you financially prepared for taking on this lifetime challenge? Clearly this is a predicament well worth thinking thoroughly about.
Do you want the baby?
You are going to have to ask yourself two crucial questions: do you want to give birth or not? The sooner this question is answered, the better because there comes a time when it is too late to abort and even if it is still possible, the later the time, the more brutal the means. The other crucial question is if you decided to go through with the pregnancy, whether or not you want to keep the baby. Emotional factors play a huge role in both these questions and it is not uncommon for women to often change their minds.
Talk to someone about the unplanned pregnancy
Seek counseling as soon as possible. This is a difficult situation for a woman of any age, but the younger the woman the harder it gets. A lot of women don’t seek counseling because they deem it unnecessary. The fact is that bringing another human being into this world when you haven’t planned for it is as serious as it gets. This is no small matter and you can forever change the outcome of a human being’s entire life, including your own, by making an informed and carefully considered decision. If you are not ready for this change, the chances are the coming of a baby will not only disrupt your life as you know it but negatively affect the life of your baby. I am not saying that it cannot be a good thing and more often than not the outcome is a favorable one if the decision is to go through with it, but be very sure.
Look to the parents for help
Talk to your parents. This seems like a proposition for a crazy person but you will be surprised at the amount of insight and understanding they can offer you. Your parents might be mad at first, but by showing concern and maturity about the life of this unborn child, you will not only show them that you are not going to make this decision lightly but that you also see their input as valuable. This will assist in their trusting you and by this you will start to trust them.
Talk to the baby’s dad
Lastly, talk to the father of the child. This is left for last because at the end of the day, no matter how you look at it, and I’m sure a lot of men will disagree, it is your body and your decision. If it is something you both decided you want, all the better and good luck. If he doesn’t want anything to do with the child, this plays another factor in your decision making. Are you financially and emotionally equipped to do this on your own or do you have help from friends and family? Is it important for you that the child has both parents in their life.
Final thoughts on unplanned preganancies
These are all things to consider when facing with a life changing situation such as an unwanted pregnancy. Act quickly but think thoroughly. And whatever the outcome will be, a child is a blessing and should not be taken for granted, ever.
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