Being rejected by someone of the opposite sex might seem like the most devastating event of your life but in actuality it's really not that bad. Rather than worrying about rejection you just need to learn how to deal with it. If you seem to have that constant fear of rejection and it holds you back from approaching the opposite sex, take a look at these methods of how to deal with rejection.
Don't Take It Personally
No matter how wonderful you are, not everybody is going to like you. You're not going to be everyone's ideal date, and not everyone is going to be attracted to you. If you attempt to make a move on someone and they reject you, don't take it to heart. Just because one person was not drawn to you does not mean that you're not attractive or have a lot to offer. In fact, you will often get rejected before the person knows anything about you; so they might be rejecting that one specific request (i.e. giving you their number, going out on a date, etc.) but they're not rejecting you as a person (they don't even know you as a person). You're not attracted to every person you see, so don't take it to heart when one person isn't attracted to you.
Think Of It As Practice
Getting rejected can actually help you to improve your game. Although it may be a blow to the ego at the time, the more you get rejected the less nervous you become. The reason for this is because you will find that your life is not seriously affected by rejection, so you won't hesitate to make a move in fear of it in the future. Thus, you will appear more confident. Think of rejection as a means to building up your confidence and your game, rather than a blow to who you are. If you ask someone for their number and they turn you down, realize that you're not losing anything – so you didn't get a number, who cares?
Don't Be Dramatic
People often have a hard time dealing with rejection because they think that everybody saw them get rejected and now they're the laughing stock of the town – this is a completely irrational thought. Nobody cares if you get rejected, not even the person that rejected you. If you ask someone for their number and they turn you down, just act cool about it and walk away. Nobody else in the bar (or club, restaurant, cafe, etc.) was paying attention to you, and nobody noticed the rejection. Even if other people were around at the time, they will forget about it within minutes. Don't convince yourself that you're going to be on the front page of the newspaper because you got rejected, you're the only one dwelling on it.
Talk To Someone Encouraging
After you experience rejection it is easy to convince yourself that you're never going to find anybody that loves and wants you. This may sound childish but you should talk to someone that you know is going to make you feel good about yourself. Talk to a friend of the opposite sex that you know will encourage you and help you to focus on all of your good qualities, rather than focusing on the fact that you were rejected. Your friend will help you to balance your negative feelings and realize that you might have been rejected for reasons that actually have nothing to do with you (i.e. the person wasn't single, they were scared, they were in from out of town, etc.). It always helps to have someone stroke your ego when you're feeling bad about yourself.
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