Sexual fantasies are an important source of sexual arousal for many people. How do you discuss your turn-ons with your partner? Although you may have been together for many years, how well do you the secret sexual fantasies of your partner? You can always simply discuss them with one another. You should exercise a certain amount of caution about what you reveal to one another. Occasionally, it can backfire on you. Experts attribute this reversal of intention to the fact that lovers often do not understand what it truly means to share a sexual fantasy.
Set up some boundaries
In order to minimize risk while you discuss your turn-ons with your partner, both of you should agree to mark some boundaries before you begin. It will also help if both of you understand what the other hopes to achieve by revealing your sexual desires. If there is a new sexual fantasy that you would like to act out with your partner, do not immediately reveal it. You should test your partner’s receptivity to the idea by suggesting the idea in an indirect way. This will allow you to gauge how willing your partner might be.
Don't expect too much
Even if both of you have positive receptions to one another’s ideas, this does not mean that the sexual fantasy will be satisfactorily acted out. Even after you have discussed your turn-ons with your partner, it is still does not guarantee a positive outcome. Enacting a sexual fantasy will either bring mutual satisfaction or it can potentially destroy your relationship. As one partner attempts to live up to the expectations of what their partner wants them to be, it can create an uptight and anxious atmosphere in your relationship.
Consider your partner's feelings
This can be especially true if you are uncomfortable with your partner’s sexual fantasy. Many fantasies do push the boundaries of what is considered traditional lovemaking. If you partner feels uneasy with your proposition, do not force it upon him or her. This is one reason why it is so important to discuss your turn-ons with your partner. When you reveal a sexual fantasy to your partner, you are revealing your innermost desires. Your partner’s inability to accept a certain fantasy may cause a break in your relationship. It takes an accepting and understanding partner to listen to your sexual fantasies. Also, how you reveal your sexual fantasies to a partner will have an influence on how accepting of them they are.
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