So, you want out of your relationship but you don't know how to tell your boyfriend. Mentally checking out is not the difficult part, breaking the news to lover-boy is. You must decide on a break-up method based on both your relationship and your boyfriend's personality type. Some guys will take a swift hint, some guys will need a thorough explanation, and some guys won't get it either way. If you want to get rid of your boyfriend but you just can't find the right way to do it, take a look at these hints for some helpful advice.
The Gentle Way
He has been the perfect boyfriend to you: he's romantic, he cares for you, your family loves him, he lets you control the remote, etc., but you just don't want to be with him anymore. Despite the fact that you want to break up with him, you still care about his feelings. If you want make the break-up as painless as possible, break up with him sooner rather than later; although dumping him will hurt him, stringing him along is even worse. Make sure to break up with him in a private place in person, don't call or text him just because it might be easier for you. Simply explain to him that he has been nothing but wonderful to you, but that you just don't want to be in a committed relationship anymore. Tell him that you're at a point in your life where you want to be single, and that at this time you can't be the kind of girlfriend that he deserves. Perhaps you can also explain that you don't feel that chemistry anymore. Let him know that you would really like to stay friends but that you understand if he needs times. Be kind to him but make sure that he understands that the relationship is over.
The Straightforward Way
Your boyfriend is cocky and although he was exciting for some time, the fact that he thinks he is prettier than you drives you crazy. Because this guy will not be able to comprehend that you don't want to be with him anymore, you must be totally blunt with him. Tell him that you cannot take his arrogance any longer and that you want to be with a guy that does not only care about himself. Explain that you have almost nothing in common, that you don't see the relationship going anywhere, and you don't want to waste anymore valuable time. Muttering the words, "We are done," or "It's over," is a good idea with this guy, just to make sure he really understands what you're telling him. Don't shed a tear in front of him and stay completely calm and focused during the break-up.
Get Him To Dump You
Your boyfriend is needy and insecure and you feel that dumping him might push him over the edge. Therefore, the only way to get rid of him is to get him to dump you. You can try to scare him off. Tell him how anxious you are to move in together, get married, and start a family. Talk about your wedding plans, your future babies, and how you cannot wait to be a soccer-mom. Unless you guys have been talking about the future already then this will probably scare him enough to leave you. You can also just stop being attentive, be unaffectionate, show little emotion, seem unimpressed with him, and be agitated at all times. If all else fails you can accentuate your nasty habits. You can pick your nose, pee with the door open, show him how you haven't shaved in two weeks, or have poor table manners.
Disappear
Attempt to completely cut yourself off from your boyfriend. That means don't call him, don't answer his calls, don't answer his texts, don't answer his e-mails, and pray that he will get the hint and leave you alone. This method works best if you have just gone on a couple of dates with the guy, and are not in a serious relationship with him. Sometimes this method is more successful if you leave him an initial message telling him that it's over, and then attempt to disappear. That way he cannot convince himself that you were kidnapped or you fell off the earth.
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